Several years ago I was given a promotion and a raise and a few weeks later fired. I still don't understand it and I'm told it's just what happens and it's big business. It took me a long time to come to grips with being fired - I felt like a failure. Here's what I have learned:
"Failing Forward isn't Failing at All"
When I originally lost my job, my husband was relieved. He could see things much more clearly than I could. I felt many things, but relief wasn't one of them. I was embarrassed, angry, disappointed, confused, and the list goes on. Luckily, I had a great support system of positive friends and business associates and I started by looking at my strengths in order to determine a direction to take my life.
Once I determined what I was good at, I looked at what brought me joy. I slowly began to realize I hadn't been using my talents or experiencing much joy in the day to day workings of my corporate job. I moved forward with a much clearer vision of what I wanted to do and what I didn't want to do. You could take this and relate it to dating or any area of your life really and most definitely your writing life. Figure out what didn't work, what did work, what sparked the most joy, and keep moving forward.
At some point, you'll be able to look back at that old job, old manuscript, old fling, old apartment, old friendship, etc... and realize though you might have failed, you've definitely moved in a forward direction and therefore it wasn't really much of a failure at all.
Tell us about a time in your life you failed forward! Why are you happy it happened? How long did it take for you to see it as a forward move? We can't wait to hear from you!
Drop a note and let us know!
Hugs,
~Crystal
and now...a little more about me...
Crystal is the office manager, council secretary, financial secretary, and musician at her church, birth
mother, Auntie, babywearing mama, business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband and their five youngest children, two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, horses Darlin' and Miss Maggie May, a bunny named Penelope who is absolutely the most amazing companion, and over 250 Holsteins.
~Crystal
and now...a little more about me...
Shown from left to right: Delphine riding Honey Mr. Otto holding Eudora Crystal riding Marv. Thank you Forward Farm, LLC |
mother, Auntie, babywearing mama, business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband and their five youngest children, two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, horses Darlin' and Miss Maggie May, a bunny named Penelope who is absolutely the most amazing companion, and over 250 Holsteins.
And now she runs a virtual classroom for her children who are distance learners!
You can find Crystal milking cows, riding horses, and the occasional unicorn (not at the same time), taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books here, and at her own blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade and she has never (not once) been accused of being normal!
You can find Crystal milking cows, riding horses, and the occasional unicorn (not at the same time), taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books here, and at her own blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade and she has never (not once) been accused of being normal!
1 comments:
Thank you for being brave enough to write about what many of us have experienced in Failing Forward. Having a similar experience has allowed me to realize that not only is it time to re-assess my priorities but also a perfect time to pursue my writing goals.
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