Showing posts with label doubt. Show all posts
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Friday Speak Out!: Writing by Divine Order

Friday, March 01, 2019
by Nadia Brown

I’ve married and divorce poetry so many times I’ve lost count. I’ve even written poems about my love loss and misgivings. But each time after our break-up, I would recall our good times, and that would encourage me to continue on in our relationship. I’d like to think I don’t have a quitter’s mentality, but there were moments where I’d set my mind to moving in another direction, that maybe this writing thing is not for me after all. This is not because I want to give up but rather it is about not seeing another way forward after already exhausting all options. But here I am years later, still learning about life with poetry, about where I fit into its world – to the point where I’ve written several poems about it. Here is part of a poem I wrote weeks ago.

Probe

I've probed
and examined you
but still can't speak
your language.

How many mountains
must I cross,
how many countless oceans I must
propel my body through
to reach your core?

When I first began this journey, an acquaintance at the time recommended a publishing company where I could submit my work. This company isn’t perfect, but it had no monetary requirement for submitting your work. If she hadn’t done so, I probably would have not gotten published, as I was quite ignorant about the publishing industry at the time. So I count this as a divine encounter.

Once I was published, I promoted my book and still submitted poems to contests, online and print poetry magazines. As time went on, I started to feel what I was doing wasn’t working. But then I received a letter along with an award certificate and $75 dollars informing me I came in 2nd place in a poetry contest I forgot I entered. Again, this renewed my hopes in my poetry writing. That said, I still wasn’t sure if I could write and publish an article because until this time I had never done it before. I then thought I would write an article and submit it to see if I’m any good at writing beyond poetry. The first time I submitted my article, I only submitted to one place. It was just to test the waters, to see if I had what it took. I was then pleasantly surprised when Absolute Write accepted my article “Knowing What Editors Want.” These accomplishments reaffirmed to me that writing is my calling and that even though I’ve had other accomplishments since then, those were the ones that came when I was really unsure whether I would stay with this thing called writing.

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Nadia Brown is a book publicist for indie authors at http://www.author-promotions.com and the author of two books of poetry: https://www.amazon.com/-/e/B003D1VEFI. Her poems have been published in several print and online publications, including Absolute Write, The Florida Writer, and Conceit Magazine.
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Friday Speak Out!: How to "Fix" Your Writing

Friday, May 08, 2015
by Noelle Sterne

You're writing along like butter. Suddenly a stomach-wrenching jolt slams you against a concrete wall. That harpy in your head rebukes: "THAT'S THE WORST, MOST HORRIBLE, STUPID PHRASE SINCE . . . ."

Take heart. Such a message doesn't have to plunge you into a full block. Recognize it for what it is--merely your old programming decreeing you shouldn't be writing, you'll never be a writer, and you might as well go sell burn phones (if that's not already your day job).

When I first heard that deafening, dismissive voice, it stopped me cold. First I sat staring at the blank screen. Then I wandered hopelessly around the house, like an orphan in a canyon. My current project lay abandoned, drafts yellowing and flashdrives demagnetizing.

I longed for a savior on a white laptop. Then I realized that only I could gallop to my rescue.

The next time the dread voice intoned, as usual I almost froze. But from some subconscious forest, the noble steed appeared. It charged me to type one more word that calmed, commanded, and cut through the hailstorm of criticism: FIX.

This innocent three-letter word triggers a palliative magic that renders the monstrous screamer powerless and keeps me writing.

Why?

1. It tells me that what I've just written isn't typed in cement.

2. It reminds me that this is only my first draft, or fifth, or fifteenth.

3. It assures me I've got as many drafts as I want.

4. It admits that this might not be my finest hour, but so what?

5. It reassures that the writing process is one of trial and error, coaxing and courting, boldness, patience, and courage.

6. And, most miraculously, it shows me I can trust my mind.

How? Typing FIX mysteriously releases my imprisoned creativity.

After I type the word, two seconds or two minutes later, as I'm deep into the next paragraph, my eyes flit back up the screen. With hardly conscious thought, like apples bobbing up in water, new words surface. They're invariably better than those in front of me, and sometimes even the right ones.

For example, a few lines back, the orphan simile came rather easily. But the words directly before it ignited that shrew's abuse:
I mope around like an orphan . . .
I feel like an orphan . . .

I wanted to run for the coal cellar. Yet, holding on, I pecked out FIX. Three lines and barely five minutes later, the right phrase popped up, and I wandered hopelessly no more.

Even if you’ve developed your own methods to tame your personal harridan, remember this. The next time you hear that frightful condemning voice, just type that one magnificent word. You'll be astounded at your greater editorial sharpness, confidence, and creativity. You'll see that you can FIX anything.

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Author, editor, writing coach, and spiritual counselor, Noelle Sterne publishes writing craft and spiritual articles, essays, and fiction in print and online venues. A longtime academic editor, she assists doctoral students to complete their dissertations (finally). Her Trust Your Life: Forgive Yourself and Go After Your Dreams (Unity Books) contains examples from her practice, writing, and other aspects of life to show readers how to release regrets, relabel their past, and reach lifelong yearnings. Her forthcoming book helps doctoral candidates deal with often overlooked or ignored but crucial aspects that can impede completion: Challenges in Writing Your Dissertation: Coping With the Emotional, Interpersonal, and Spiritual Struggles (Rowman & Littlefield Education, September 2015). Website: www.trustyourlifenow.com
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Friday Speak Out!: Words

Friday, October 24, 2014
by Elizabeth Joyce

I worry about the significance of my writing. Like a nervous actor auditioning for a play, my thoughts take a negative turn as words appear on a computer screen. Is my experience enough to warrant attention? The ideas that float in my head stubbornly squeeze out two sentences. I freeze on the empty stage wondering how to get through the next few minutes.

This dangerous moment resulted from memories of being the last one picked on a team in gym class. I remember the disappointed looks as I joined the group of kids. Everyone knew I wasn’t well coordinated to throw a ball in a hoop or run to first base. The feeling of not being able to perform stayed with me until I graduated high school.

Writing helped me feel successful. In my twenties, I joined a playwriting group and found joy in creating dialogue. I’d come home after work to gather characters in a restaurant or house to talk about their troubles. Soon my plays were produced in a local theater company. No longer did I feel useless.

But one year a friend laughed at a line I wrote in one of my plays during rehearsal. The premise of the story was about a young woman mourning her recently deceased grandmother. She reminisces about a special ritual of them “Buying french fries at McDonald’s after attending Sunday Mass.” The hurt I felt from my friend stayed with me. I was also ashamed for not defending my writing. It was too late to demand an apology for her insensitivity.

It caused me to wonder about what I had to offer as a writer. Were my stories too sentimental? I wanted to be a writer who could offer insights. Lingered doubts of my own philosophy ballooned like an elephant. Instead carefree writing sessions became a battle of rewriting and deleting. The internal editor emerged and squelched my creativity.

I decided to take a break from writing. I joined an improvisation class and acted in a children’s Christmas play in order to fill the void. It didn’t work because like sports, it wasn’t where I belonged. Then I read about an adult education course on writing personal essays. I didn’t know if I had stories worthy to tell. Then I heard the same advice my mother used to tell “Write what you know.”

I read through my old journals and listened to my father’s stories of him growing up as the second oldest of nine children during the Depression. I decided to write positive stories of family, love and hope. I’m proud of what I want to write. Next time someone laughs, I’ll just have to fight back because this time I’m not backing down.

Summoning up conviction, the actor remembers her monologue and I find inspiration. We both toss aside worries to do what we love. The spotlight focuses on the facial expressions while the keyboard taps out a beginning, middle, and an end.

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Elizabeth Joyce is an assistant children’s librarian at Ruth Keeler Library in North Salem and Brewster Public Library in Brewster NY. Her plays have been produced by the Brewster Theater Company. Elizabeth’s personal essay, “Acceptance” and her short story, “The Candle” have been published in the North Salem Review publications. She belongs to the Fairfield Writer’s Group in Connecticut. 
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Friday Speak Out!: Embracing The Writer in You, Guest Post by Karen Mae Zoccoli

Friday, January 24, 2014
So here I am, writing an entry for Friday Speak Out, not feeling very qualified but nevertheless thought I would give it a shot. As a pre-published writer of picture books, I am guilty of holding back. I battle with that little voice that taunts me— I’m not good enough, too old, not qualified, lacking the education, etc., etc. But, lucky for me, I’m stubborn as all get out. When I want something, badly, really really badly, I may just never quit. And I think that’s the mentality writers have to have. It’s knowing that you write because it’s just who you are.

On the flip side of this, I make it a practice to envision the feeling of being published, visualizing one of my stories becoming a reality and seeing it sitting on the bookshelf all shiny, new and magical! I feel awestruck by lively illustrations, but more than that, I feel moved by the expressions of the young reader. That’s really what drives me—envisioning that smile on an eager face, wide eyes immersing a child, laughter, touching a heart. Making that connection, that’s where it’s at for me.

So I’ve kicked off the New Year by doing a few things. Getting better acquainted with Twitter. It’s a great place to find info and opportunities with other writers, agents and editors. I’ve also put together a dream board, something I have always wanted to do but never seem to have the time (I used Oprah’s online app—fun and easy, mine’s here at kz2014). More importantly, I have gotten over my fear of being seen. Isn’t that odd? To be afraid of being seen? But it’s a real fear for many of us who perhaps are shifting gears mid-life to embrace the writer in us. Our friends and family may not know this part of us. It can be scary to show it to them. We all know people who would just assume squash you like a bug rather than see you shine. Keep yourself away from negative people, from the naysayers.

As women, we often put our dreams aside. I like to think that our dreams, however, never forget about us. Whatever your dream is, protect it, embrace it! Show up in life as your authentic self. Someone else might just be waiting for your inspiration, your example.

So what does all this mean? For me, it means I keep writing, keep working at my craft, keep connecting with others, finding blogs, contests, webinars, workshops. SCBWI has been a great professional group to be a part of. My writer’s group is a place to be seen, to be heard, to be vulnerable. I actively seek out my ‘tribe’. All of these things add fuel to my fire, driving my passion and improving my writing, and help me push forward. Will I make it to publication? Anyone’s guess. But I know I may never quit. Because at the end of the day, it’s just who I am.

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Karen Mae Zoccoli grew up in the valleys of central New York state and now resides in Connecticut with her family and loyal dog Buster. An admitted late bloomer, she is working towards making her dream of writing for young children a reality. Growing up in a divorced home on welfare, she believes, has helped her with her writing. “Difficult situations can force a person to see things with new eyes and find their inner strength. It helped me to see the small things, to observe the spaces, the little details and nuances of life, that others might overlook.”


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Tuning Out the Self-Sabotage Monster

Thursday, September 13, 2012
by Bonnie Hearn Hill

You manage to steal a block of time  to stay home and write. Now that you have the time, the words won’t come. That voice within you says, “Who do you think you are? You know you’ll never do this.”

You write something you love, but by the next morning, you seriously question its quality. You end up hating it so much that you can’t finish.

You want to write more than anything, yet you can’t seem to follow through. Why? Because there’s a monster in your head. Every writer has one. I’ve assigned a gender and an identity to mine—Mrs. Delp, one of my middle school teachers.

What she said was simple enough:  “Bonnie, can’t you ever do anything right?”

I forgot all about her until I began working with writers, but her words left their mark. When I observed my writing students exhibiting the same self-doubt I experienced, I tried to remember the first time I’d felt that hesitation,  the first time I’d heard that voice. Once I figured it out, I shared Mrs. Delp with my class, most of whom were well acquainted with her, under any number of names. One said her Delp was her mother,  who sent back all of her letters from summer camp, corrected in red ink. Another said his Mrs. Delp was a mister. His high school principal suggested he drop out of school and get a job because he wasn’t going to amount to anything.

Most of your efforts to sabotage your writing start with that judgmental voice. It doesn’t matter if it is a parent, a former teacher or ex-spouse. They’re all Mrs. Delp and, ultimately, all you.

Delp talks about responsibilities. “You have to do the laundry tonight.”

She talks about guilt. “You finally have a Friday off, and you’re not spending it watching TV with the kids?”

Most of all, she judges. “That’s no good. What makes you think you can do this?”

Other people can also delp you, intentionally or not.

“You’ve been writing every night. You deserve some time off.”

“Honey, do you know how many people out there are trying to write books?”

“Oh, you’re a writer? What have you published?”

Listen to your Delp long enough, and you’ll find your writing slowing and maybe stopping. You may begin rewriting before you finish the first draft. You might decide that one of the ten story ideas you came up with this morning is better than your work in progress and abandon yet another unfinished story. Worse, you may jump up from the computer realizing you really do want to clean the oven or the toilet right now. (Anything that makes you want to clean the oven or the toilet can’t be good.)

Here are some tips to keep you from delping yourself or letting others do it.

Publish something now, and it doesn’t have to be a bestseller. One of my students’ first sale was for ten dollars. Four years later, she signed a six-figure contract. The first made the second possible because it gave her the confidence she needed to push forward.

Do not show your unpublished work to anyone but a qualified professional.

Don’t show your best friend. Don’t show your parent. Please do not show your spouse.

You don’t need false praise, and you certainly don’t need criticism from someone who doesn’t have the knowledge to help you. Find a class, a mentor, or a critique group you trust.

Cultivate safe writer friends, not the ones who want to impress you with their brilliance, but real friends who also face that blank page every day. Choose helpers, not delpers.

Know that you will probably have to give up something to make room for your writing.

You can’t do everything. You have to make choices. When I worked at the newspaper, I got up every morning an hour early to write. I know other authors who wrote in their cars on their lunch hours. You do have the time, but you have to take it.

Recognize Delp for what she is. What is the message? That you don’t have talent? That you don’t deserve? That there’s no point in trying? When did it originate? Hear and picture that person who made you feel that way. You may want to name your voice after him/her. The next time you find that you’re delping yourself, you’ll be aware, and awareness is the beginning of change.

Write every day, even if for just  for ten minutes a day. You’ll polish your writing skills and will be less likely to believe that message of “You’re no good.”  Write the same time every day, if possible. The Delps of the world shy away from proactive production.

Evil is loudest just before it’s destroyed. Like the last hideous screech of the monster in a horror film, Delp will come in for one last attack just as you begin to reach your goal. You’ll break a leg on your way to a conference. You’ll accidentally crash your computer the night of a deadline. Expect it. And then go to the conference on crutches, if necessary. Borrow a computer. Demonstrate your commitment. No, it’s not easy, but it’s easier than letting Delp destroy your dreams.

Fight back. Although you may not be able to tune out that voice, you can turn down the volume.

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Bonnie Hearn Hill is the author of six international thrillers from MIRA Books, four young adult novels, and with Christopher Allan Poe, coauthored DIGITAL INK: WRITING KILLER FICTION IN THE E-BOOK AGE. A national writing conference speaker and contest judge, she has mentored many published writers and leads online workshops for WOW.

Bonnie's upcoming class, WRITING CONTESTS: THE FOCUSED WAY TO WIN, starts on Wednesday, September 26, 2012.  Join now, early registration is recommended!

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Friday Speak Out!: Words From A Clear Inner Voice, guest post by Irene Cohen, MD

Friday, August 31, 2012
Words From A Clear Inner Voice
by Irene Cohen, MD

In 2009 I undertook a one year course of study with two teachers who created a program called the Voice for Love. This program teaches one how to hear her clear inner voice. The program consisted of meditation, writing, speaking from this voice and learning spiritual counseling. As a psychiatrist I had been interested in the connection between mind and spiritual practices for many years and found this program illuminating.

I didn’t start out to write a book. As a long-time meditator, I prefer to sit in the early morning before the day begins. This practice has always set the course of the day for me and creates the sense of peace and concentrated focus which I bring with me no matter what occurs. Although I did not start out to write a book, I found that during my meditations, when I was quiet and empty of thoughts, words began to come to me with the prompt to write them down. So I started to meditate with my netbook in my lap, sitting on a cushion. Without asking any questions or thinking of any particular subject, messages and contemplative pieces came forth. Through a melding of my mind and my own unique abilities, something greater than myself emerged. The information I wrote down was not channeled, but it was a part of me, a greater and vast part, a larger Self. In this process, during which I am fully conscious and aware, words come forth effortlessly and in a sharper, clearer way than if I were to try to explain them myself.

When my book of 100 short meditative passages was finished, I also edited it from the place of my higher self. Getting myself out of the way, with my ego’s doubts and fears, made the editing and rewriting process much easier. If I am editing from that space of higher knowing, I can think with more clarity about what I am trying to convey and in doing so, create more of what was meant to be.

But isn’t the creative process always so? We write from another place within us which feels compelled to express itself. Artists and writers have often called it inspiration. It is a blossoming of who we truly are. If we gain clarity from a quiet mind, which for me means a regular, daily meditation practice, we can all write with less effort and more ease, knowing that what we mean to say will be distinctly in our voice.

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Irene A. Cohen, MD is a psychiatrist, acupuncturist and interfaith minister who has maintained an integrative practice for almost 30 years. Hay House / Balboa Press just released her first book, Soul Journey to Love: 100 Days to Inner Peace . Visit Dr. Cohen on Facebook, follow her on Twitter, and blog with her at www.drirenecohen.authorsxpress.com.

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Friday Speak Out!: Who's Running Your Show?, Guest Post by Sandy Grason

Friday, June 24, 2011
Who's Running Your Show?

by Sandy Grason

You may have heard me say “your Inner Wisdom whispers and your Inner Critic yells”. What I mean by this is when I first heard the whisper of my Inner Wisdom it said “write a book”, but immediately my Inner Critic piped in and said;

“You can't do that, who do you think you are? Who wants to read your book? What are you going to write about? Who really cares what you want to write about? Everybody wants to write a book, what makes you so special?”

That's just a tiny, tiny snippet of what my Inner Critic was yelling in my ear. I often joke that my Inner Critic is very mean, she says things like “You suck!”

I wish I could tell you that I've conquered my Inner Critic, stomped her out, smashed her with my powerful-Rock Star-Hot Mogul-ness. I hate to report that she is alive and well and she usually is loudest when I'm standing in the wings getting ready to head on stage, the person introducing me is reading my fabulous bio, listing all the wonderful things I've accomplished, blah, blah, blah.... all I hear is “If they could have seen you having a meltdown in the parking lot with your kids last week, oh they would be REALLY impressed...”

I'm not sure you ever really get rid of your Inner Critic, but I have found ways to turn up the volume of my Inner Wisdom and to live my life from the guidance of my Inner Wisdom rather than from the fear of my Inner Critic. I can also happily report that I no longer allow my Inner Critic to stop me from pursuing things I really want to do.

Yes, she still says things like “What will other people think? You don't know what you are doing, what if you make a fool of yourself?” And my personal favorite “You're doing it wrong.” Fortunately, even if I might be “doing it wrong” I'm committed to do it wrong with style and in the biggest way possible. :-D

Here my tips to turn up the volume on your Inner Wisdom and start living your most magnificent life:

1. Be Willing to Suck. As I mentioned, my Inner Critic likes to tell me that I'm doing “it” wrong. It doesn't matter what it is, there's that critical voice, always chiming in, judging everything, looking for the problem or the reasons why I'll never be able to succeed. I got a note from a reader recently telling me the story of her sister who finally, finally finished her screenplay. When she asked her sister how she managed to accomplish this her sister replied “I was willing to suck at it!” That's the game your Inner Critic plays, judging you harshly until you just give up rather than doing something that is less than perfect. So go ahead! Be willing to Suck! It will change your life!

2. Shut Your Mouth. And your phone, your television, your radio off for a little while. Be quiet for at least 10 minutes every day. You don't have to DO anything during this time. Reconnect with yourself. It's hard to hear your Inner Wisdom when you've got lots of other voices competing for air time in your head. Shut everything off and just sit quietly. Or listen to some favorite music. Go outside and put your feet in the sand or the grass (or the snow?). Stare at the sky, move clouds with your mind, rock in a rocking chair, swing on a swing. Do this everyday for 10 minutes. Watch the magic unfold.

3. Follow Your Fun. I'm a firm believer that our Inner Wisdom sends us messages in the form of FUN. If you are having fun you are connected to your Inner Wisdom. When you are excited and passionate about a project, there is an energy you are tapping into that is connected to all of life. You are more connected to others and to your own “flow”. I know there are always tasks and projects that are waiting on you and they might not seem like much fun, but make sure you are building in a bit of the Fun Factor into every single day. Your Inner Wisdom can be silly as well as wise- go find some FUN today!


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Sandy Grason is a Rock Star Author, Int’l Speaker, Radio Talk Show Host & Hot Mogul. Get on the Guest List for Sandy’s next Virtual Cocktail Party®, or book a private one-on-one lifestyle design strategy session today at www.SandyGrason.com./em>
 
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Friday Speak Out!: The Naysayers, Guest Post by Holli Moncrieff

Friday, August 27, 2010
The Naysayers

by Holli Moncrieff

Dear readers,

What's your reaction to the word "can't"? If someone tells you that you can't do something, do you believe him? Or does a stubborn streak kick in from out of nowhere, making you more determined than ever to prove that person wrong?

One sad fact of life is that there will always be naysayers in the world. When everyone else is encouraging you to dream big, the naysayer will point out all the reasons that your goals are impossible. And sadly, we usually remember the naysayer's words much longer than we will recall any positive feedback or encouragement. It's human nature.

But what if we can use the naysayers in our lives to motivate us? To give us that extra push to achieve exactly what they said we couldn't do? Wouldn't that be the best possible scenario?

Trouble is, sometimes plain old negativity is painted as helpful advice. When we're nervous or lack experience, it's natural to listen to The Voice of Wisdom. Here's a rule of thumb I've learned: if that wise sage is telling you why it's unrealistic/not in your best interest/too difficult/challenging/expensive/unnecessary to do something you really want to do, he's a naysayer. Even if it seems like he really knows what he's talking about.

I wish I'd known this when I listened to my high school English teacher, who told me I couldn't possibly be a psychologist, steering me towards journalism. Making writing my day job has been a move I've regretted ever since, but I was young and naive, so I thought my teacher knew better. Knew my own capabilities better than I did! I wouldn't make that same mistake today.

When I first started Making the Cut, I was excited. I shared the news with a fitness-minded co-worker, who promptly replied that it is very difficult for women to develop defined arms. This is something I've never had a problem with, so I was thinking that I could safely file that remark in the "Nothing to Do With Me" file, when my co-worker went on to comment, "look at you, for instance. Your arms aren't defined."

Ouch. Well, they certainly used to be. And they will be again! Rather than deflating me, her words inspired me. After most of Jillian's exercises, I've done extra work on my arms to prove my co-worker wrong. Is it silly to change one's behavior on the strength of an off-hand comment? Maybe, but I say there's nothing wrong with that if it inspires you to be better.

I was told by many a well-meaning local writer that I'd never get a New York agent. Well, I did. Yes, I had to terminate her services, but that doesn't mean I won't get another one when and if I need her/him. I've been told it would be easier to give up on my dream of being a full-time author. "Why don't you just publish your book with (insert name of small local non-profit publisher here)? After all, your first novel is not going to be a bestseller."

Oh really? Good thing Andrew Davidson never paid heed to that kind of crap, or he'd be collecting royalty checks for twenty bucks instead of signing million dollar deals. I'm not Davidson, but I don't intend to listen to it, either.

Let's face it: the most powerful, consistent naysayer of all is in our own heads. It's the nagging voice that tells us we're doomed to fail. Even the most confident among us struggle with self-doubt now and then...they just don't give into it.

The most obvious solution to the problem with naysayers is to surround ourselves with positive people, and distance ourselves from anyone who isn't. But that isn't always realistic. And sometimes, like in the case of my co-worker, an otherwise good friend can slip up and say something unintentionally hurtful. Instead, let's use the naysayers' words against them: as motivation to push us even closer toward our dreams! You know what they say: living well is the best revenge. And I for one intend to live extremely well. I hope that you do, too.

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An award-winning writer, Holli Moncrieff has over twelve years of journalism experience. She has published hundreds of articles in national newspapers and magazines, including the Globe and Mail, Flare, and Chatelaine. Her blog, A Life Less Ordinary (http://www.thekickboxingwriter.blogspot.com/), is about her journey to publish a novel and compete in her first muay thai kickboxing fight.

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Top 10 Fears of Writers

Thursday, March 12, 2009
In A Writer's Book of Days, Judy Reeves shares the results from a survey of writers showing their top fears about practicing the craft. Here's the list:

1. that I'm not good enough; that my writing is mediocre or bad

2. that my work is worthless, boring, drivel, not clever; that I have nothing interesting to say

3. that I won’t follow through or complete anything

4. that I'll get stuck and nothing will come out

5. that I'll never learn the craft of writing

6. that I'll appear stupid or foolish; afraid of what people will think

7. that I'll hurt someone

8. that I'm a fake, lying, not telling the truth

9. that its waste of time

A tie for 10:

10. that it’s been done or said before, better

10. that I won't get published


Chances are, you've had at least of few of these thoughts yourself at one time or another. I know I have! We're only human.

With practice and experience, some of these concerns lessen, I've found. For the other fears, do what you can to convince yourself of the opposite truths. Just keep writing! You can't let any of these worries stop you from doing what you love.

--Marcia Peterson
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