Kathleen Pooler Launches her blog tour for Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse

Monday, October 06, 2014
& giveaway contest!

Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse is a memoir, a true life tears-to-triumph story of self-defeating detours and dreams lost and found.

A young woman who loses sight of the faith she has been brought up with attempts to find her way in the world, rejecting her stable roots in lieu of finding adventure and romance. Despite periods of spiritual renewal in which she receives a prophecy, she slides back, taking several self-defeating detours that take her through a series of heartbreaking events.

When Kathy's second husband, Dan's verbal abuse escalates, Kathy finally realizes she must move on before she and her children become a statistic.

How does a young woman who came from a stable, loving family make so many wise choices when it came to career, but so many wrong choices when it came to love, so that she ended up sacrificing career and having to flee in broad daylight with her children from an abusive marriage? What is getting in her way and why does she keep taking so many self-defeating detours?

The story opens up the day Kathy feels physically threatened for the first time in her three-year marriage to her second husband. This sends her on a journey to make sense of her life and discern what part she has played in the vulnerable circumstance she finds herself in.

She must make a decision--face her self-defeating patterns that have led to this situation and move on or repeat her mistakes. Her life and the lives of her two children are dependent upon the choices she makes and the chances she takes from this point forward.

Paperback: 242 pages
Genre: Memoir
Publisher: Open Books Press (July 28, 2014)
ISBN-10: 0985936797
ISBN-13: 978-0985936792

Twitter hashtag: #EFaithPooler

Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse is available as an e-book and paperback at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and IndieBound.

Book Giveaway Contest:
To win a copy of Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir, please enter using the Rafflecopter form at the bottom of this post. The giveaway contest closes this Friday, October 10th at 12:00 AM EST. We will announce the winner the same day in the Rafflecopter widget. Good luck!

About the Author: 

Kathleen Pooler is an author and a retired Family Nurse Practitioner whose memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse, published on July 28, 2014, and work-in-progress sequel, Hope Matters: A Memoir of Faith are about how the power of hope through her faith in God helped her to transform, heal and transcend life’s obstacles and disappointments: domestic abuse, divorce, single parenting, loving and letting go of an alcoholic son, cancer and heart failure to live a life of joy and contentment. She believes that hope matters and that we are all strengthened and enlightened when we share our stories.

She lives with her husband Wayne in eastern New York.

She blogs weekly at her Memoir Writer’s Journey blog: http://krpooler.com

Twitter @kathypooler

LinkedIn:  http://www.linkedin.com/pub/kathleen-pooler/16/a95/20a

Google+: http://plus.google.com/109860737182349547026/posts

Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/user/show/4812560-kathleen-pooler

Facebook (personal page): http://www.facebook.com/kathleen.pooler

Facebook author page: http://www.facebook.com/AuthorKathleenPooler

Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/krpooler/

One of her stories “The Stone on the Shore” is published in the anthology: The Woman I’ve Become: 37 Women Share Their Journeys From Toxic Relationships to Self-Empowerment by Pat LaPointe, 2012.

Another story, “Choices and Chances,” is published in the My Gutsy Story Anthology by Sonia Marsh, September, 2013.

-----Interview by Crystal J. Otto

WOW: Kathleen, we’ve known each other quite a while now. You’ve been very influential in helping other others, so the question on my mind is: Who has been most influential in YOUR writing career?

Kathleen: My paternal grandfather, Paul wrote letters to my aunt and her husband for several months in 1945 during WWII when they were stationed at an Army base in Texas. He packaged them into journals, complete with construction paper covers, cartons and penciled drawings and labeled them “Paul’s Epistles.” They captured the details of every day life, the historical background of the war and my grandfather’s unique sense of humor as well as deep love for his four children. Those letters have brought laugher and joy to our family. According to family lore, Grandpa Paul had a “way with words” as did his daughter, my Aunt Ruth who published a book of poems. The messages I received from my family for as long as I can remember was “you’re just like your grandpa and aunt.”

On the maternal side, at the age of ten I wrote plays which I acted out in front of my Italian grandma, Nan and her lady friends. I can see them gathered in the living room sipping coffee and chattering on in Italian. I never understood a word but I can still feel their fascination and loving attention as they hushed each other when I stood in the archway to announce the beginning of the play.

WOW: It’s awesome to hear how supportive your family is; what a wonderful gift they gave to you! Speaking of gifts, if your current self could hop in a time machine and give the gift of advice to a younger version of you, what would that be?

Kathleen: Hindsight is wonderful when you can look back on the great expanse of your life and connect with all the lessons learned, usually the hard way. I think I would tell my previous self, to listen more carefully to her “inner voice” as well as to the advice of those who loved her—family and friends who had her best interests at heart. I would tell her to trust her feelings more. In the words of my beloved father, “when in doubt, don’t.”

WOW: Oh wise friend—as you journey with your time machine, could you give that exact same advice to my 16-year-old self? (not that I would listen)

All we can do is move forward and I’m glad to see you moved forward with publishing your memoir. What pushed you in that direction?

Kathleen: Writing has been a passion of mine since I received my first diary with a lock and key at the age of eight. I have journaled my entire life, especially in times of turmoil. I decided to answer the call to write with the intention of eventually publishing a book, back in 1999 when I took my first online writing course, ”Getting Started in Writing” through Writer’s Digest. I loved testing my ability to write effectively and getting feedback. I wrote the story closest to my heart, my young son’s descent into substance abuse. It helped me to clarify the wide range of feelings I was experiencing. When I shared my writing with my son, I was pleased how open he was to hearing my perceptions and the impact his drinking had on me. From 1999 through 2013, I kept writing, taking craft courses, built my author platform and finally completed the first draft of the memoir that was published in 2014. It was not the story I started writing but it was the story that revealed itself to me—the story that begged to be told. Since 2013, I have been rewriting and polishing the story until its publication date on July 28, 2014.

Now to answer your question. What prompted me to publish and motivated me to the finish line was a deep connection to my purpose for writing my story. Once I connected to this purpose—of sharing hope that no matter how bad things may seem, it is possible to climb out of the abyss of poor decisions and lead a joyful life—there was no stopping me. I had to get my story out there for others.

WOW: Some memoir writers are done once their memoir is published and other go on to write more. I love your writing (even how you answered that last question—beautiful!) and hope there are more books in your future, but what is YOUR plan?

Kathleen: After completing the initial phase of my marketing campaign for Ever Faithful to His Lead, I plan to continue writing a sequel about my simultaneous battle of a diagnosis of cancer and my son’s descent into alcoholism. The working title is Hope Matters: A Memoir of Faith. It will be about my faith helped me overcome these battles.

I also have nursing stories I’d love to package into a book. The working title is Sacred Ground: Stories from My Nursing Career.

WOW: Sounds like you’ve already got a good start and I hope to get my hands on a copy of Sacred Ground as well! You certainly have plenty of experiences to draw from. 

Is there something about you that might surprise readers? Something very few people know about Kathleen Pooler?

Kathleen: I love a good party and socializing with friends but I also love my alone time and the days I can be a homebody. I love to sing (even though I can’t!) and dance. I love music of any kind (except hard rock) and country and oldies music top the list.

WOW: I’d ask how you feel about fan clubs for musicians but we had better stick to books. What are your thoughts on writers clubs and book clubs?

Kathleen: Writers groups are essential but they have to be a good fit. I feel it is important to feel safe sharing your work and getting constructive feedback. The same with book clubs. It should be a place to discuss and reflect upon books but it also should be a group you feel comfortable expressing your views in without judgment.

WOW: I agree, there’s enough judgment out there and don’t we all worry about negative comments and rejection? I like feedback from my writers group because it’s always well intended.

I’m sure publishing your memoir can be scary. How have you dealt with rejection and/or negative reviews?

Kathleen: I think they are inevitable and we need develop a tough skin and be open to ways we can improve. So much depends upon how the rejection/negative review is delivered. If it is a personal attack with no substantive constructive feedback, it needs to be ignored. If it spells out area of weakness and ways of improvement, it can be a gift. It’s not easy to depersonalize it but I think it’s the only way to survive. Some people say to not even read reviews—positive or negative. Going through a professional editing and beta reading process helped me develop a tougher skin. I also learned what to accept and what to disregard. It’s important to be open to ways to improve while also being true to your story.

WOW: That sounds like good advice for any author. When did you call yourself an author?

Kathleen: I called myself a writer until I published my memoir. Now I call myself an author. Happily.

WOW: That sounds like a victory and a happy dance to me!

Other than the new title, how do you celebrate your writing victories?

Kathleen: I had a great Book Launch Party on 8/23 at my local Indie Bookstore! Right now, I’m in full marketing mode but I find myself taking more breaks and doing some of the other things I want to do—like spend time with my husband, my grandkids, my friends.

WOW: Do you have a favorite author? Maybe not someone you spend time with, but anyone in particular?

Kathleen: That’s a tough question because I love to read a variety of authors and genres but two of my favorite authors are James Michener for his rich detail and Ernest Hemingway for his sparcity of prose that says so much.

WOW: This is an odd question but I always find the answers so intriguing. If you don’t mind my asking: If your book was turned into a Hollywood movie, what song would you want playing as the credits role?

Kathleen: The Rose by Bette Midler for the message of hope it conveys:
“far beneath the hidden snow, lies a rose that with the sun’s love in the spring becomes the rose..”

WOW: That was one of the first songs I learned to play on the piano—I might even volunteer to play it for you if you ever come to Wisconsin! Thank you so much for this great interview and what is sure to be an even greater tour Kathleen! This has been an incredible pleasure!

----------Blog Tour Dates

Monday, October 6 (today!) @ The Muffin
Stop by for an interview and book giveaway!

Tuesday, October 7 @ Choices
Find out what fellow memoir writer Madeline Sharples thinks after reading Kathleen Pooler's memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse. This is a blog stop you won't want to miss!

Wednesday, October 8 @ All Things Audry
Join Kathleen Pooler as she explores "How a Nurse Learns to Care for Herself" as she visits All Things Audry with her memoir Ever Faithful to His Lead. Kathleen is generously offering an ebook copy of Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse to one lucky winner of a giveaway. Thank you to both Kathleen and Audry!

Thursday, October 9 @ Katherine Hajer
Join Katherine Hajer as she reviews Kathleen Pooler's touching memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Friday, October 10 @ Sherrey Meyer
Join Kathleen Pooler as she writes a guest post titled "Writing as a Pathway to Healing" and shares her thoughts with author and friend, Sherrey Meyer. Find out more about Kathleen and her insightful memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Monday, October 13 @ Women’s Writing Circle
Kathleen Pooler sits down with Susan Weidener for a friendly conversation about how Kathleen crowdfunded her memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Tuesday, October 14 @ Lauren Scharhag
Don't miss Kathleen Pooler's interview with Lauren Scharhag as these ladies discuss the hot topic of memoir. Find out more about Kathleen and her own Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Tuesday, October 14 @ Vera’s Version
Join Kathleen Pooler as she guest blogs about "How Writing Memoir Helped Me Find Self-Forgiveness" at Vera's Version and shares insight into her memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Wednesday, October 15 @ About Amish
Kathleen Pooler and her memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse makes a stop to visit Saloma Furlong at About Amish where you can read Saloma's review and get in a giveaway for an opportunity to read Ever Faithful To His Lead for yourself!

Thursday, October 16 @ Lisa Haselton
Join Lisa Haselton as she interviews Kathleen Pooler and we all learn more about Kathleen's memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Friday, October 17 @ Jerry Waxler
Author, Friend, and Fellow Memoir Writer Jerry Waxler reviews Kathleen Pooler's Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse  This is a blog stop you won't want to miss!

Sunday, October 19 @ Moon Bridge Books
Join Linda Austin as she interviews Kathleen Pooler about Pooler's Memoir  Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse. 

Monday, October 20 @ Romance Junkies
Join Kathleen Pooler as she stops at Romance Junkies for an insightful interview about herself and her memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Tuesday, October 21 @ Mary Gottschalk
Kathleen Pooler shares her latest project: Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse as she visits with friend and fellow author Mary Gottschalk and fittingly writes about "Girlfriends Matter". This is a blog stop you won't want to miss!

Wednesday, October 22 @ CMash Reads
Join memoir writer Kathleen Pooler as she guest posts at CMash Reads. Kathleen will share her story of "Writing Through the Pain" and tell more about her popular memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse.

Thursday, October 23 @ Bring on Lemons
Hear what Crystal Otto has to say as she reviews Kathleen Pooler’s Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey Away from Emotional Abuse  Don’t miss this blog stop as Kathleen Pooler has graciously provided a copy of her memoir for one lucky reader to win via a giveaway!

Keep up with blog stops and giveaways in real time by following us on Twitter @WOWBlogTour.

Get Involved! If you have a website or blog and would like to host one of our touring authors or schedule a tour of your own, please email us at blogtour@wow-womenonwriting.com.


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Margo Dill said...

This was an inspiring interview--so much so that I went right over to Amazon and bought the Kindle copy! :) I admire you for your bravery and for helping other women find their way.

Elizabeth Maria Naranjo said...

Congratulations on publishing your memoir, Kathleen. It must have taken a great deal of bravery to write your story and share it with others. I also remember those wonderful secret diaries--mine had a little gold lock to keep out intruders. :) Good luck with your blog tour; I will be following along!

kathleen pooler said...

Crystal, thank you very much for this interview! You asked me some very interesting and challenging questions. I'm excited to begin the tour.

kathleen pooler said...

Margo, it's nice to "meet " you. I appreciate your support very much. My greatest hope is that my story will help others in a hopeful and healing way. Thank you for stopping by to comment.

kathleen pooler said...

HI Elizabeth, I'm loving meeting new people! Thank you so much for your kind words. I had to put this story away many times because it was too painful to write. But , as I learned through the process, the only way to the other side of the pain is through. I am so happy I did finish it because writing this memoir helped me to heal. I am hopeful it will help others as well. And yes, those secret diaries served am important purpose, eventually becoming the seeds for the memoir. I'm thrilled to have you along on the tour!

Linda Appleman Shapiro said...

As a psychotherapist and addictions counselor (not to mention author who is scheduled to be interviewed by WOW, as well), what is most compelling about Kathleen's story is that she came from a seemingly happy loving/functioning family. That she then went on to make poor choices when it came to men, is not as common as it is for those who have witnessed abuse or grown up without loving care. Gaining the courage through her faith and perhaps due to her responsibility toward her children to break a pattern that was doomed to destroy her is admirable and inspirational. Her memoir is, no doubt, one that will help many others and is further proof to anyone who doubts it that life is about choices, and that it's never too late to make good choices rather han bad ones. BRAVO!

kathleen pooler said...

Dear Linda, your insights are the exact reason I wrote this memoir; to explore how someone from a loving , stable family could have/would have made so many self-defeating choices. it was a question that haunted me for 25 years. In finding the answer to this question through writing this memoir, I do hope to encourage others that it's" never too late to make good choices" Thank you for your kind and thoguht-provoking comments.

Anonymous said...

I admire anyone who can focus enough to write a book. I have always wanted to write but cannot follow through do to many distractions.

Deborah Wellenstein said...

I enjoyed the interview, and look forward to reading your book!

kathleen pooler said...

Hi Tom, you are so right about the distractions. They are always there in many forms. For me, once I became connected to my purpose for writing my story--sharing hope that freedom from abuse is possible--I was able to power through these distractions. I hope you'll give yourself a chance to fulfill your wish to write a book. Best wishes and thanks for commenting.

kathleen pooler said...

Thank you, Deborah! I look forward to your thoughts after reading my memoir. I appreciate you stopping by to comment.

Jackie Rod said...

I loved this interview about your life and the memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead. I feel a kindred spirit to your walk of faith. Thanks for sharing. I look forward to reading your book.

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