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Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor: Blog Tour & Giveaway

Monday, January 12, 2026

Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor

When was the last time you stared at the ceiling, sleep chased away by worries, to-do lists and overthinking? If you've ever found yourself struggling with a overactive, won't-shut-off mind, Sheri McGregor's Rumination Remedies is the book for you. Join for the launch of the book tour, an interview with the author and a giveaway of the book.

But before we get to that, here's more about her book:

In Rumination Remedies, Sheri McGregor offers 41 powerful, practical tools to help you recognize, interrupt, and release repetitive thought loops. Thoughtfully written, immediately useful, and deeply compassionate—this is a must-have for anyone ready to stop spinning and start living with more ease and clarity.”

— Lori Clemmons, author of Rewire Your Wellness: A Guide For Reclaiming Your Life from Chronic Illness, Anxiety,

The human brain is amazingly resilient but in today's stress-filled and overstimulating world, your mind can get stuck. Worry, regret, and racing thoughts steal your joy, peace, and confidence-not to mention sleep. The good news? You can change the pattern.

Rumination Remedies is a gentle, smart guide to freeing your mind. Whether you're caught up in dread, weighed down by regret, or distracted by what-ifs or wishes, this practical workbook offers holistic, body-friendly and brain-building ways to find your peace of mind.

Publisher: Sowing Creek Press (October 5, 2025)
AISN: B0FTWVBW26
ISBN-10: 0997352272
ISBN-13: 978-0997352276
Print length:  228 pages

Purchase your copy on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Bookshop.org. You'll also want to add it to your GoodReads reading list.

About the Author, Sheri McGregor M.A.

Sheri McGregor holds a Master’s Degree in Human Behavior and has been writing and life coaching for
more than two decades. She loves her work to help people reclaim their self-worth and step courageously toward peace—and their dreams. Some of her advanced training and certifications include
brain-based coaching, aging-related wellness, and the neuroscience of change. 

Sheri is most well-known for her work to help parents of estranged and/or dysfunctional adult children, which includes peer support and her award-winning books in her Done With The Crying series.
 
                 https://www.balanceandjoy.com/
                 https://www.rejectedparents.net/

--Interview by Jodi M. Webb

WOW: You’ve written on many mental health topics in the past, including books on estrangement from adult children and the healing spirit of nature. What made you decide to tackle the issue of overthinking for Rumination Remedies?

Sheri: I grew up with a dad who worried about everything and realized early on just how miserable overthinking can be. I saw my dad’s turmoil and vowed not to be like that. Genetics, learned behavior, and some devastating life blows tested that vow—and made it stronger. In my life and education, including earning degrees in psychology and human behavior, I’ve learned a lot about rumination. In my work as a life coach, the problem of an overactive mind has come up repeatedly, so I knew there was a need—and a book can reach more people.

WOW: Rumination Remedies is a book + more. It's power is in how interactive it is, more of a workbook with plenty of activities to help improve your life by finding peace of mind. Can you share an activity from the book that you especially find helpful?

Sheri: For writers, I’m especially fond of the book’s somatic exercises. The body isn’t separate from the mind. Those exercises get you up out of the chair and active, which brings new perspective simply by stepping away from the work. You return with fresh eyes.

If I had to choose a favorite, it would be Solvitur Ambulando — Latin for “it is solved by walking.” It uses simple movement and momentum-based metaphors that work with the brain’s natural processes, helping people advance forward mentally and leave behind overthinking. Great thinkers across time, including gifted writers, knew their feet held the key to healthy cognitive processing.

"The goal isn’t to quiet the mind completely—writers need a lively inner world—but to develop a healthier relationship with thought."

WOW: So many writers I know swear by walking to reveal what their writing needs. So, do you feel the lessons in Rumination Remedies can be applied to the life of a writer?

Sheri: Absolutely. Writers tend to have active, imaginative minds, which is both a gift and a vulnerability. The same mental agility that helps a writer notice nuance, explore ideas, and shape language can also turn inward and spiral, revisiting sentences, decisions, or imagined outcomes. At some point, it’s fruitless, and you’re just pushing words around on the page.

Many of the lessons in Rumination Remedies help writers learn to recognize when reflection has crossed into mental looping, and how to interrupt that process without shutting down creativity. The goal isn’t to quiet the mind completely—writers need a lively inner world—but to develop a healthier relationship with thought.

WOW: Your books are published by your own Sowing Creek Press. What made creating your own publishing company the right path for you?

Sheri: I’d written for major magazines for decades and had also placed fiction and nonfiction books with traditional publishing houses—some even translated into many languages. I knew how the industry worked, and when I wrote my first book to help parents of estranged adult children, Done With The Crying, I pitched it to agents and editors who expressed interest. But it became clear to me in those conversations that they didn’t truly understand the topic. Maintaining integrity and control over the work was important to me—and I knew the best way to do that was to create my own company. Since that time, I’ve been contacted by major publishing houses but have chosen to remain independent.

Sometimes, cooperative arrangements make sense though, like the deals I accepted with Tantor Media for audio versions of two of my self-help books. Another example is foreign translations. Done With The Crying has a gorgeous, embossed hardback edition in Russian with major publisher, Bombora. And I recently accepted an offer from Taiwan company, Yuan-Liou Publishing Co., Ltd., to produce Rumination Remedies in traditional Chinese language characters. I can’t wait to see it, especially the cover art.

WOW: It's fascinating that you are able to maintain your own company and still work with other publishing companies to expand your reach. What was the most rewarding thing about setting up your own publishing company?

Sheri: The most rewarding thing is to make a difference in people’s lives. Every day, I hear from readers whose emails touch my heart. The best advice I could give to someone considering starting their own publishing company is to consider how much time they’re willing to invest. Getting a book to print is just the beginning. Making sure it’s seen becomes a lifestyle.

"Getting a book to print is just the beginning. Making sure it’s seen becomes a lifestyle."

WOW: Thanks for letting WOW blog tour help you with that. In addition to self-help, you’ve written short fiction, articles (some about chicken farming!), personal essays. Does writing in different styles strengthen your writing?

Sheri: When you work for magazines, you learn to make your writing voice complement the publication’s. My years freelancing for a wide variety of publications sharpened that ability. It’s similar to how you’d modulate your pitch to speak soothingly to a young child with a skinned knee, infusing a sales pitch with polished enthusiasm, or using humor in appropriate spaces. I used to love writing for Chickens Magazine because they liked my eggstra silly puns. The more you learn to use your writing voice in different ways, the more adept you become at language—a writer’s tool.

WOW: Have you always been a writer?

Sheri: I vividly remember my mother teaching me to write my name when I was four. The letters stood for something and, at that age, the idea of that felt magical. As a kid, I received my first rejection letter from the Carol Burnett Show for a skit I’d sent in. I started working seriously toward publication when my children were young and I wanted to build a career working from home.

WOW: That sounds familiar (well, not the Carol Burnett experience). What’s up next for you?

Sheri: I’m excited about a beautifully unique guided journal that will be out soon. Eventually, I’d like to publish more work by other authors at Sowing Creek Press. I enjoyed working with the authors featured in the 2018 anthology, Nature’s Healing Spirit: Real Life Stories to Nurture the Soul. In addition, I plan to teach a couple of publishing and writing courses in the near future.

WOW: Sounds like you have a full plate. Thanks for taking time to share your publication experience with us.

Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor Blog Tour

--Blog Tour Calendar

January 12th @ The Muffin
Make 2026 a year of peace and calm. Start with the launch of the WOW blog tour for Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor M.A.. Read an interview with the author and enter to win.

January 13th @ Boys' Mom Reads!
Turning over a new leaf for 2026? Don't miss the spotlight on Sheri McGregor's Rumination Remedies.

January 14th @ Blooming Mindfulness
Beverly, blogger for those living  with chronic illness or disability, reviews the workbook Rumination Remedies.

January 15th @ Knotty Needle
How can writing rituals help? Find out with a guest post Sheri McGregor, author of Rumination Remedies. 

January 16th @ A Lit Life
Stop by The Lit Life for a review of Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor.

January 20th @ The Faerie Review
Are you looking for a way to achieve peace of mind? Check out the review of Sheri McGregor's Rumination Remedies.

January 21st @ Create Write Now!
Learn how to get into the writing flow - but control the stress - with Sheri McGregor, author of the self-help workbook Rumination Remedies.

January 22nd @ Words by Webb
Jodi writes about the connection between cannas and calmness. She'll also be reviewing the book that helped her make the connection: Rumination Remedies by Sheri McGregor.

January 27th @ Chapter Break 
It's time to Tame Your Inner Editor. Then get more tips on avoiding overthinking with a review of Rumination Remedies.

January 29th @ Hook of a Book
Do you spend time worrying about...everything? Free yourself! Don't miss the review of Sheri McGregor's new book Rumination Remedies.

January 30th @ Hook of a Book
Sheri McGregor, author of Rumination Remedies, is a guest at The Writing Adventure writing about the power of the Productive Pause - stepping away to move your work forward.

February 1st @ Shoe's Seeds & Stories
Sheri McGregor tells us how we can change our story and change our life while Linda reviews her workbook for improving life: Rumination Remedies.  

February 4th @ Writer Advice
Are too many thoughts bouncing around your brain? Sheri McGregor, author of Rumination Remedies, shares how the Clear the Mental Clutter and Write. 

February 6th @ Jill Sheet's Blog
Today's interview will tell you more about Sheri McGregor, author of a book that could change your life: Rumination Remedies.  

***** BOOK GIVEAWAY *****

Enter to win Rumination Remedies: A Workbook to Heal Your Mind from Worry, Regret, and Racing Thoughts by Sheri McGregor. Fill out the form below for a chance to win. The giveaway ends January 25th at 11:59 pm CT. We will randomly draw a winner the next day and follow up via email. Good luck!

Rumination Remedies Giveaway
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Louise Alexandra Erskine: How Vulnerability Builds A Brand

Wednesday, May 08, 2024
Screw Prince Charming by Louise Alexandra Erskine

By Rosie MacLeod
 
Imagine if you could explore and confront your most traumatic experiences in a way that would help not only you but also your readers to heal?
 
This is precisely what Louise Alexandra Erskine has turned her hand to. Poetry helped her “unintentionally” to face—and progress beyond—the “compound trauma of childhood trauma, failed marriage [and] an abusive marriage.” One of her micropoems went viral, accumulating 50,000 repins on Pinterest. Fans have even been tattooed with its words:
 
And
from the
Chaos
of Her soul
there
flowed
Beauty
 
This year, she released her second poetry collection, Screw Prince Charming!, also home to many micropoems. Why micropoems? “The format is a tool that’s more accessible,” Louise muses, “it’s a really good way to pick apart your own hopes, dreams, disappointments, trauma and memories and make them digestible.”
 
Vulnerability, micropoems, and building your brand gradually—Louise Alexandra Erskine shares how to build your “personal brand of books” and resonate with readers in self-care poetry.

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WOW: Thanks for joining us today. Your new collection, Screw Prince Charming! is very readable. Talk to me about your work, and how you got started.
 
Louise: It has all just grown up with me. It’s just me exploring what it is to be a woman, to be me, to have trauma, to heal. All these little parts of me, entwined. We—me and poetry—are growing up together, and we are not there yet. That’s why I haven’t written my experiences as a memoir yet. It’s a process that it is still working itself out publicly—not just healing, being brave enough to dream publicly. I think that’s the hardest part, sometimes.
 
WOW: So you and poetry are still growing, and in an interview, you said it had evolved into something larger. What is that something?
 
Louise: I never really set out to be a brand, but it’s evolving that way. I almost feel like it’s more of a movement than anything, this movement of people who have grown in that constant battle between feeling broken and searching for wholeness and meaning in all of the trauma. We are not lightness, and we aren’t darkness. Me and people like me are the light between the stars.
 
You are worth celebrating - Louse Alexandra Erskine

WOW: For readers searching that wholeness, your poetry books feature spaces for writing exercises geared towards self-care. What made you want to build this service-orientated brand around your books?
 
Louise: When I was 26, journaling was huge. I was divorcing. To have kept a diary or a journal would have been incredibly unsafe for me. A poem, on the other hand, if somebody found it, could just be a poem. So poetry enabled me to pin down on paper and gain perspective. I would feel less weighed down by ‘the things’ if I could just look at them in front of me, rather than feeling trapped beneath them. I just felt, if that works for me, there will be others whom journaling is overwhelming or unsafe.
 
WOW: Gosh, that’s a danger I’d never even thought could exist. What came first for you—the poetry or the therapy? Were you writing poetry when you found it to be a great healer, or recovering when you discovered poetry really helped?
 
Louise: I was healing and writing poetry, but I didn’t realize I was doing the two things simultaneously; it was just a natural process for me.
 
WOW: And was the self-care angle also a natural one to pursue? Did you see the therapeutic benefits of writing, and just need to get the word out there? Or was it something else?
 
Louise: It was just something I enjoyed. I realized then I would feel lighter because of it. It helped me to feel less alone. When I put my poems out there and they generate reaction; I know I am reducing peoples’ loneliness. And if my work could do that, that was everything to me. It was all about the connection. I did not want anyone else to feel as painfully isolated as I had.
 
Someone that loves you doesn't diminish you in an effort to make their own light brighter - Louise Alexandra Erskine
 
WOW: As well as relieving loneliness, you inspire other people to write. There are spaces for writing exercises in your books and journals. Why do you inspire other people to write?
 
Louise: We rise by lifting others. If you push a rock up a hill, you’re still going to summit! I want to be the best teacher or mentor. To be a leader, you must want to take people where you’ve been and equip them to go further. That is the joy of leadership.
 
WOW: And by leading them into creativity, your readers become writers. The receiver of the creativity becomes a creator. Are you deliberately pushing boundaries and asking, “What even is poetry?” and “What even is a poet?”
 
Louise: Yes, I absolutely am. I don’t just write poetry, I am poetry. There’s a Bible verse that talks about how we are God’s masterpiece—“masterpiece” is the Greek word for “poem,” pōema (also spelt “pōlema”), from where we get “poem”: you are a poem that God wrote. That’s me. I am literally walking poetry. No, you don’t have to write things in nifty little squares to be a poet. You literally are poetry. To be a poet is about pushing boundaries. If you can do it in poetry, you can push them elsewhere. You can challenge societal norms to improve the world. I know that sounds incredibly idealistic, but I am and I’m not sorry!
 
WOW: In pushing boundaries, you seem to define poetry as “An ongoing conversation—an energy—shared with my readers.” All your readers and followers are writing a chapter in your work. Am I right?
 
Louise: Yes. I love that so much. It is not about me or my writing or my personal glory, it is about creating a movement of people that can heal and evolve and challenge enough to change the world. That is my aim.
 
 
"We all have a distinctive backstory. It's a case of being able to be vulnerable enough to share it."
 
 
WOW: What tips do you have for building that movement and a brand around books? Is it a distinctive backstory? A landmark quote? Some other Unique Selling Point?
 
Louise: I wish I knew! I am figuring this out as I go. I think it’s all of the above. We all have a distinctive backstory. It's a case of being able to be vulnerable enough to share it. You are your brand, and you must find your people. A distinctive backstory could be absolutely anything. Whatever your story, your people will be out there, people who identify with you and share part of your story. You need to be brave enough to be vulnerable with them, and honest enough to show your genuine self. That is scary, especially at the start. A wide audience would be lovely, but my focus is on finding the right audience: meeting the readers my heart is for and then bringing them alongside me in the best possible way. A wide audience will help you to find more of the right audience. I keep trusting that focusing on the right audience will cause the rest to fall into place. It’s a balance. Maybe that is the unique selling point—nobody else can tell my story.
 
WOW: Do you find that very contemporary language helps to tell that unique story? I’ve noticed that the language in your poems is very colloquial.
 
Louise: It depends on the audience you’re trying to attract. If you want to connect with academics and intellectuals, then use all of the beautiful poetic language. But if you’re looking to connect with people who are broken and searching for a way to heal, then you need to speak to them and meet them where they are. I am not afraid to drop an F-bomb in a poem because that will connect with my target audience (trauma survivors). It’s mostly about knowing whom you want to connect with so you can know which language is best for you to use.
 
WOW: So that’s the advice for speaking to a readership—what about for writing in a positive and therapeutic way? Any advice on that?
 
Louise: Even when it’s something that hurts, you can still make it beautiful with poetry. I wrote a poem about a miscarriage I had. There was nothing in it to say it was about a miscarriage. It said, “And just like that you were gone, and I’m left here without you. Like a sky stripped of all its stars.” It helped me to put metaphor to something. It makes it simultaneously bigger and smaller. I feel like it’s okay now. I will never be a woman who hasn’t miscarried multiple times, but I can now hold that information without it breaking me because I processed it, wrote it in this way, and because I’ve made it into something that’s beautiful. I shared it and people have connected with the sense of loss and that is an incredibly powerful thing.
 
Not your puppet, not your strings - Louise Alexandra Erskine

WOW: You’ve also processed painful domestic abuse in poetry, as well as how you are overcoming it. Do you have any advice for writing about really traumatic issues?
 
Louise: Think about a moment that hurt. You can just take a small segment from it, without naming the whole, specific trauma. Just capture the essence of it. Write maybe ten micropoems about the same/similar moments. You will slowly build a picture of something that happened as well as how you are processing and healing from it. Don’t ever share it while it’s still raw. You need to write it, put it away and come back to it.
 
Don’t share it until you’ve finished processing it. The absolute last thing you want to do is write something traumatizing for you and attract invasive and overwhelming comments. The first time you share it, tell it to your best friend. Tell them things you haven’t been brave enough to say out loud. And you don’t have to give a huge life story. Sharing a little bit of trauma at a time is the most effective way to heal.
 
WOW: When you are confronting trauma through those micropoems, when you’re building up a picture of what you’ve experienced, how do you keep writing positively?
 
Louise: Balance. Try to share a combination of my goal—meeting my people in their pain and isolation. I do this by letting my readers know I have felt what they feel. It would be incredibly heavy to only discuss those things. So I will also write poems that discuss the beautiful moments.
 
Much of the time, writers and speakers tend to sell themselves to an algorithm that works beautifully in terms of initial growth but that is detrimental long term. So, if I share something painful, complaining, and it does well, then the tendency is to say, “the algorithm likes this, so I’ll just keep sharing that content.” You then tunnel vision your way to only having this very one-sided, narrow perspective on content that you are sharing. And you must keep the bigger picture in mind. It is better to grow slowly. And then have a body of work that readers can look back through. Keep the wider picture, don’t niche too far as tempting as it can be.
 
 
"If I share something painful, complaining, and it does well, then the tendency is to say, 'the algorithm likes this, so I’ll just keep sharing that content.' You then tunnel vision your way to only having this very one-sided, narrow perspective on content that you are sharing. And you must keep the bigger picture in mind."
 
 
WOW: Are there any topics you would avoid, to keep that balance and keep writing in a positive way? Or is nothing off limits?
 
Louise: I think it very much depends on the circumstances. In a domestic abuse interview or blog post, I might discuss a specific incident of sexual trauma. I won’t put those things into poems. If I do an interview about domestic abuse, the people watching it have consented to that content. I don’t feel like anything is off-limits for me, but I will be the one to choose how and when and where those things are shared.
 
WOW: And yet, you’ve managed to do all this writing and interviews and raising awareness without using your name! Your entire brand is known as “Beautifully Defected.” Why did you take this as your “nom de plume”?
 
Louise: One of the many ways this idea of being “beautifully defected” came about was when I was in what might be called a “situationship” with a guy. He went to a rave and sent me a picture of him with a sticker reading “we are defected” stuck to his forehead. I didn’t know if it was thoughtless or if it was a comment on our relationship. Either way, yes, we are defected as a couple and as individuals—but I’ll be damned if I’ll be ashamed of that. I am defected, but it makes me beautiful. I can be more beautiful for having been broken. I was fashioned into something beautiful. Nobody gets to tell me that my brokenness is ugly.
 
WOW: Well put, and poetic as always, Louise! Thank you for chatting with me today.
 
Readers, find out more about Louise and her books by visiting beautifullydefected.com and catch up with her on Instagram @beautifully_defected. 
 
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Rosie MacLeod
Rosie MacLeod is a London-based translator, interpreter and reporter. She has made reports for Global Radio and regularly reports for ShoutOut UK and East London Radio. She has written for Drunk Monkeys, World Literature Today, Inside Over and the Journal of Austrian Studies. You can listen to her radio work here: www.mixcloud.com/rosie-macleod. She tweets as @RosieMacLeod4. Get in touch via LinkedIn. Website: rosiemacleod.com. Instagram: @rosie.macleod.3
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The Checklist Book by Alexandra Franzen Blog Tour (And Giveaway)

Monday, May 11, 2020

Simplicity at its best: The checklist is one of the world’s oldest―and most effective―productivity systems. If anything, author and entrepreneur Alexandra Franzen shares, it is just as valuable now as it was during the days of the Roman Empire. Writing out a simple checklist allows us to tangibly plan our day and set in stone what we want to accomplish.

Cut out unnecessary noise: There are countless apps and organizational systems out there to help us straighten out our lives, but often they only add to the madness. Trying to keep up leaves us feeling drained and overwhelmed. Learn how to choose your highest priorities, set realistic goals, celebrate tiny wins, and feel calmer every day with the magic of checklists.

Be realistic about the time in a day: By physically writing down our tasks on a single piece of paper, we force ourselves to limit how much we can do in a day. Too often, we cram our day with tasks and chores and leave almost no space for self-care or time with loved ones. We end up disappointed in our inability to complete our never-ending to-do list. Checklists help you plan your day in a more gentle, realistic way. You accomplish what needs to be done―and enjoy things you want to be doing, too.

In the life-changing Checklist Book, learn:
  • The history of the checklist and why it remains to be relevant and effective today
  • The science behind the success of checklists, such as the instant satisfaction we feel when we put a check next to a finished task
  • How to create a basic daily checklist―and checklists for specific situations, like moving to a new city or navigating a divorce

Print Length: 160 Pages
Genre: Self-Help
Publisher: Mango
ASIN: B07V6GWGW5
ISBN-10: 1642501182
ISBN-13: 978-1642501186

The Checklist Book is available to purchase online at Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, Target, and IndieBound.

Book Giveaway Contest

To win a copy of the book The Checklist Book by Alexandra Franzen, please enter using Rafflecopter at the bottom of this post. Giveaway ends on May 17th at 11:59 PM EST. We will announce the winner the next day on the Rafflecopter widget. Good luck!

About the Author, Alexandra Franzen


Alexandra Franzen is the author of several books, including So This Is the End: A Love Story (2018), You're Going to Survive (2017), and 50 Ways to Say "You're Awesome" (2013).

She has written articles for dozens of sites, including Time, Forbes, Newsweek, HuffPost, The Muse, and Lifehacker. She's been mentioned/quoted in The New York Times Small Business Blog, The Atlantic, USA Today, BuzzFeed, Brit+Co, and Inc.

Alexandra is best-known for writing about creativity, productivity, the power of setting tiny goals, how to develop more confidence in your writing skills, and how to stay motivated, keep working towards your personal and professional dreams, and never give up.

She also works as a copywriter, ghostwriter, writing teacher, and consultant. She helps her clients to develop podcasts, videos, websites, speeches, books, and other creative projects.

Find Alexandra's latest projects, classes, and hundreds of free articles and resources at: AlexandraFranzen.com

--- Interview by Nicole Pyles

WOW: First of all, I just want to congratulate you on your book! Tell me about why you decided to write a book about the checklist. As a list maker, this book has totally spoken to me. And I was reading your blog lately and I loved your suggestion for making a list during challenging times. For those who aren't familiar with the benefits of making lists, what is the benefits of making a checklist?

Alexandra: Thank you for the kind words!

Creating a book is definitely a labor of love, and it takes a village to make it happen! So many people worked hard to produce The Checklist Book and bring it into the world, and I’m so proud of how it turned out.

I’m a proud “checklist freak” and I’ve had a lifelong obsession with checklists.

I use checklists for all kinds of things: to plan my day, to divide big projects into small steps, to stay on track with my fitness and self-care routine, and more. I also make checklists to navigate stressful situations, like a painful break-up, house sale, or moving to a new state.

Basically, checklists are my “rock” in a very chaotic and complicated world. They keep me sane, and remind me to celebrate my tiny victories each day.

For me, it feels so powerful to take all the disorganized thoughts inside my brain and pour them out…onto a single sheet of paper…in the form of a list. When I make a checklist, it’s so calming. I feel immediate relief, and my intentions feel much more doable.

And the cool thing is, there’s science behind this! Studies confirm that checklists are powerful medicine for your brain. Making a checklist can help reduce cortisol (the stress hormone) and boost dopamine (that’s the joyful feeling you get when ticking a completed box!), and basically, make you healthier, happier, more productive, and more fulfilled. The benefits are innumerable.

For those who are curious to learn the neuroscience behind why checklists work so effectively, this is something I cover inside my book, The Checklist Book, in the chapter called “The Science of Checklists.”


"If I write a book, essay, or article—and it helps even just one human being have a slightly better day—to me, that’s worth celebrating. Because helping one person is a big deal."


WOW: I find that so fascinating there is a science behind why checklists work. So, I hope you don't mind but I was doing a little digging around online and found a writing prompt that you suggest to your clients. I'm not sure if you still do this, but I read that you ask your clients to complete this sentence, "I want to live in a world where..." Why do you ask your clients to complete this thought?

Alexandra: I’ve written six books to date, and for me, being a writer is all about making a contribution, and hopefully, leaving the world in slightly better condition than I found it.

I write because I want to make a difference in people’s lives. If I write a book, essay, or article—and it helps even just one human being have a slightly better day—to me, that’s worth celebrating. Because helping one person is a big deal.

I sometimes get hired to coach and consult with people who want to write books of their own, or who want to launch businesses or podcasts, and do other creative things.

So, I love asking my clients questions like, “What kind of world do you want to live in? What kind of contribution do you want to make? What’s a meaningful project you want to complete before you die?” These kinds of questions are simple, but deep, and can really help you clarify how you wish to serve humanity.

I feel compelled to mention one of my all-time favorite books, Die Empty by Todd Henry, a must-read for anyone who wants to stop wasting time and start doing meaningful work.

So many people reach the end of their lives full of regrets, with projects they never started, adventures they never took, creative visions they never found the courage to do, with so many genius ideas still “inside” of them. Henry urges, “Don’t die with your best work still inside of you. Die empty.” Powerful words that echo inside my head, almost daily.

WOW: I love that sentiment and it's so inspiring. And you are such a prolific writer! How do you write for so many different audiences?

Alexandra: That’s so kind of you to say, thank you!

You know, I think when you do something 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, for 10 years in a row, you inevitably become pretty efficient and prolific.

I’ve been a professional writer for over a decade now, so writing isn’t really something I “struggle” to do. It’s my job. I just wake up, drink coffee, and do it. It’s not optional. It’s how I get paid. No writing, no income, no groceries! And my dog, Zuki, needs high-quality dog food and special treats, so I gotta keep writing.

Some projects are tougher than others, for sure—I’m still working on my third novel, and I’m definitely procrastinating a bit and being a slow-poke with it, haha!—but overall, like anything else (yoga, running, baking, etc.) the more you do it, the more proficient you become.


“Don’t die with your best work still inside of you. Die empty.”


WOW: I totally agree! I am so shocked to read you have no social media accounts! What led you to delete them (or what has kept you from creating any)?

Alexandra: One day, I sat down with a calculator, because I was curious to find out:

- How much time am I spending on social media per day, on average?

- How much time per week? Month? Year?

- If I continue using social media in my current manner (tweeting 3 times a day, etc.), how much time will I spend on social media by the end of my life? What’s the grand total?

I crunched the numbers and discovered the grand total would be: around 3.4 years. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, because that number—3.4 years—just feels like way too much time.

I started thinking about all the other things I could do with that time—learn a foreign language, write a lot more books, spend quality time with my loved ones—and something shifted inside of me. I realized, “I need to cut way back on my social media usage.”

I decided to take a temporary break from social media to see how things felt. That led to a longer break, and then a permanent break. I deleted all my accounts a few years ago, and I’ve never looked back. For me, personally, it feels like the right choice.

To be clear, I don’t think social media is “bad” or “evil.” It’s a powerful tool that can be used to do beautiful things like share your art, spread inspiring ideas, connect with amazing people, promote your work and earn a living. If you love social media, and it adds good things to your life…great! Use it. But I would advise, use it intentionally, and be mindful about how much time you’re putting into it. Maybe 10 minutes a day is sufficient. Maybe it doesn’t need to be 30 or 60.

Or maybe social media just doesn’t need to be part of your life, and that’s okay too. Just because “most people” use it doesn’t mean you need to use it, too.


WOW: That must have felt so invigorating and I hope more of us become more mindful of social media! Who do you hope reads this book? What do you hope they take away from it?

Alexandra: The Checklist Book is for anyone who feels stressed, overwhelmed, mentally fatigued, or who always feels like, “I have too much to do, and not enough time.”

I hope this book brings some calm and simplicity into your life. That “ahhhhh” feeling, like a deep exhale. Shoulders dropping down. Tension released.

I hope The Checklist Book helps you see your life from a fresh perspective. Maybe you don’t have to be so frenetically busy all the time. Maybe you can do less, and live more.

I hope The Checklist Book helps you become gentler with yourself, more compassionate, and more realistic about how much you can accomplish in a single day.

And of course, I hope it inspires you to make lots of beautiful checklists! A summer checklist. A self-care checklist. A survival checklist for difficult times. Maybe a daily checklist, like I do.

Whether you’re already a list-lover, or not, I hope you find a few gems inside the book.

WOW: I do too! What is next for you? What are you currently working on?

Alexandra: I’m working on a “top secret project” that involves detoxing from social media, changing your relationship with technology, and creating positive new habits.

Less time on your phone. Less time dealing with email. Less time clicking, scrolling, sitting in front of a screen. More time unplugged, offline, doing things that feel really meaningful, things that nourish and energize you.

If anyone is curious about this project and wants to be involved (I’ll be looking for some volunteers to test-run a new program soon!) they can join my email list: alexandrafranzen.com/newsletter

WOW: If you could share any advice with the world right now, what you would say?

Alexandra: Today is not over yet.

There’s still time.

Even if it’s 11:30 p.m. at night, today is still not over yet.

You still have time to meditate, stretch, drink a glass of water, call your mom and say “I love you,” write down a new goal, or do something else to end your day on a positive note. Still time to turn your life around, and get things moving in a new direction.

If you’re still alive, and still breathing, then today is not over yet.



WOW: You are so inspiring! I hope everyone picks up your book. Best of luck with everything coming up for you and on the tour!

---Blog Tour Dates

May 11th @ The Muffin
What goes better in the morning than a muffin? Make sure you visit the WOW blog today and read an interview with author Alexandra Franzen and enter to win a copy of the book The Checklist Book.
https://muffin.wow-womenonwriting.com

May 12th @ Karen Brown Tyson
Stop by Karen's blog today and read Alexandra Franzen's inspiring guest post entitled, "You Are Going to Survive."
https://karenbrowntyson.com/blog/

May 13th @ World of My Imagination
Join Nicole as she reviews Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
http://theworldofmyimagination.blogspot.com

May 15th @ The Burgeoning Bookshelf 
Visit Veronica's blog today and you can read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://theburgeoningbookshelf.blogspot.com/

May 16th @ Lapidus International
Stop by the words for wellness organization today and read Alexandra Franzen's guest post about the importance of nature time.
https://lapidus.org.uk/news

May 18th @ One Sister's Journey: Keeping It Real
Visit Lisa's blog today and read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://www.lisambuske.com/

May 19th @ Chanel Bevis' Blog
Stop by Chanel's blog today and read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://chanelbevis1.wordpress.com/blog/

May 20th @ And So She Thinks
Visit Francesca's blog today and you can read Alexandra Franzen's guest post about what a checklist can do you for you.
https://andsoshethinks.co.uk/blog/

May 21st @ Reviews and Interviews
Stop by Lisa's blog where she interviews the author Alexandra Franzen.
http://lisahaseltonsreviewsandinterviews.blogspot.com/

May 23rd @ Boots, Shoes, and Fashion
Visit Linda's blog and you can read her interview with Alexandra Franzen. Don't miss it!
http://bootsshoesandfashion.com/

May 25th @ The Frugalista Mom
Stop by Rozelyn's blog today and you can read her post about Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://thefrugalistamom.com/

May 27th @ Dog-Eared Days of Summer
Visit Courtney's blog today and you can read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://dog-eareddaysofsummer.com/

May 28th @ Strength 4 Spouses
Visit Wendi's blog today and read Alexandra Franzen's guest post unplugging more.
https://strength4spouses.blog/

May 29th @ Books Beans & Botany
Visit Ashley's blog today where she shares her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://booksbeansandbotany.com/

May 30th @ Memoir Revolution
Memoir and self-help expert, Jerry Waxler pens an article about the value of a checklist habit for memoir writers, inspired by his reading of The Checklist Book.
https://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/

May 31st @ Michelle Cornish' Blog
Stop by Michelle's blog today and you can read a guest post by Alexandra Franzen about shifting away from perfection. A post we all need to read today!
https://www.michellecornish.com/

June 1st @ Strength 4 Spouses
Visit Wendi's blog today to read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://strength4spouses.blog

June 2nd @ Beverley A. Baird's Blog
Visit Bev's blog today and you can read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://beverleyabaird.wordpress.com/

June 3rd @ Rachael's Thoughts
Visit Rachael's blog today and you can read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://rachaelstray.com/

June 4th @ Michelle Cornish' Blog
Visit Michelle's blog today and read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://www.michellecornish.com/blog/

June 5th @ Editor 911
Stop by Margo's blog today and you can read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://editor-911.com/blog

June 6th @ Megan Writes Everything
Visit Megan's blog today and she reviews Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://meganwriteseverything.com/

June 7th @ The New England Book Critic
Visit Victoria's blog today and read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://thenewenglandbookcritic.com/

June 8th @ Dog-Eared Days of Summer
Visit Courtney's blog again and read Alexandra Franzen's guest post about focusing on tiny wins.
https://dog-eareddaysofsummer.com/

June 9th @ Alternative Grace
Stop by Amber's blog today and read her review of Alexandra Franzen's book The Checklist Book.
https://alternativegrace.com/

June 10th @ Beverley A. Baird's Blog
Stop by Bev's blog again and you can read Alexandra Franzen's guest post about putting self-care into your daily checklist. An absolute must-read!
https://beverleyabaird.wordpress.com/

June 11th @ Jill Sheet's Blog
Visit Jill's blog today and you can read Alexandra Franzen's guest post about getting the phone out of your room.
http://jillsheets.blogspot.com/


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Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Author Samantha Burns, The Millennial Love Expert

Monday, June 25, 2018
Everyone is in for a real treat today because we are lucky to talk with Samantha Burns. Samantha has written an amazing book for women and men who are surviving a breakup and looking for love, Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Moving on to Create the Love Life You Deserve.   

I was very excited when the opportunity came to review this book and chat with Samantha--as many of you know, I'm divorced and a single mom, and I date, too. I love the positive vibe from this book and all the practical advice, as well as important information, Samantha provides. To give you a glimpse into her philosophy and writing style, she really took a lot of time with our questions here. So if you like what you read, please check out Breaking Up and Bouncing Back at the link above or at the end of the post. So, here we go!

WOW: Welcome, Samantha, to The Muffin! You start your book on a very personal note about your own breakup. Why did you decide to share that experience with readers?

Samantha: I wanted readers to know that they aren’t alone, that the person sharing advice has been in their shoes, and that I understand the pain that they are in. I didn’t want to just come off as an expert because of my education and research, but because I had also survived my own soul-crushing split. I also wanted to stress the point that although we each have our own unique circumstances that led to the breakup, heartbreak is a common human experience, and we typically share a similar emotional process. There’s so much isolation and loneliness that comes with a big breakup, so I thought by sharing my story people could identify, relate, and feel more connected.

WOW: And this is probably exactly what someone going through a breakup needs to feel--connections. Who will benefit from reading this book?

Samantha: This book serves a wide audience. Obviously it’s targeted at people who are going through a difficult breakup or divorce and teaches essential self-care survival skills and boundary setting that will help you cope with the obsession and depression that often accompany heartbreak, as well as explores the major underlying reasons why a relationship didn’t work out. It’s also perfect for those who are starting to date again or who have been on the market a long time and want to dig deeper into their dating dynamics and past patterns in love, so that they can ensure they are dating with intent to meet an ideal match and feel more confident in who they pick as a partner. It will help inform you how to know that you’re creating a healthy relationship, in which you feel like you are your best self, and that it’s on track for long-term success. Though my tone may appeal more to women, the content and advice applies to any gender and sexual orientation. The voice feels like your therapist and BFF combined to kick your breakup in the butt!

WOW: All of that sounds great, especially the "creating a healthy relationship" part. If someone is currently going through a breakup, what is the first thing you suggest they do (besides buy your book! ;) ?

Samantha: Give yourself permission to feel your emotions. You’re grieving the loss of the future you envisioned with someone. We don’t like to sit with uncomfortable emotions, especially the extremely painful ones that come with rejection. However, brain research shows that just the act of identifying and labeling how you’re feeling can decrease the intensity of these emotions. So rather than ignore your feelings, compartmentalize, or do harmful behaviors such as self-medicate, sleep around, or abuse food, simply carve out some time and space to ask yourself how you’re feeling. Then tend to yourself lovingly by acknowledging that there are parts of you that can stay strong, while allowing the other parts to feel whatever feelings come your way. Try to avoid judging them as good or bad and know they won’t last forever.

WOW: That is terrific advice! The book is divided into three sections: "Surviving Your Break-Up and Learning From Your Love Lessons", "Cultivating Self-Love and Creating New Purpose", and "Life Beyond Breakup". Section 2 is full of a lot of advice and tips I haven’t seen in other dating books. Can you tell us how you figured out why it is so important to create a new purpose and make sure there is plenty of self-love?

Samantha: Often times, you feel extremely lost after a big breakup. You question who you used to be, who you are now, and whether you have to return the “borrowed” parts of yourself (ex. how you’ve changed, the hobbies and interests you adopted from your ex). The reality is that you’re never going to be the same person you were before the relationship that ended. This is your opportunity to grow into something new and redefine your self-concept. By creating new purpose, you create direction and goals in your life that make you feel more grounded. When’s the last time you really got to focus on yourself and rediscover what you love, enjoy, and brings you fulfillment?

Part of our self-concept is influenced by how much love we have for ourselves. Self-love is a practice; it’s not an end state that once you love yourself that you’ll forever love yourself. I often compare it to happiness, which is fleeting, and needs to be cultivated every day. When we operate from a place of self-love, we believe we are inherently full of worth and value. The relationship we have with ourselves impacts all of our other relationships, and the state of our romantic relationship can be a mirror of how we feel about ourselves. Self-love includes actions such as consciously speaking kindly and compassionately to yourself, making sure you fuel your body with healthy foods, surrounding yourself with supportive friends and setting boundaries with toxic people, spending and saving money in line with your values, practicing gratitude, and realizing that self-love is not about perfection and requires that you appreciate yourself as enough, just as you are.

WOW: Yes, that really is so true--thank you for that detailed answer. I'm sure many readers are getting so much out of this interview that they are already on their way to buying your book! Questions about online dating are sure to come up because (take it from someone who is a divorced mom), it seems to be one of the most popular ways to meet someone these days. You cover a lot of terms associated with online dating that have surfaced the last few years, including ghosting and catfishing, but those are the negative aspects! What is a positive spin or two you discovered about online dating while writing your book?

Samantha: I’m a huge fan of online dating. I actually met my husband online (just three months after my breakup), so I know it works! The biggest benefit of online dating is that it’s a tool for connecting with hundreds of people with whom your paths may have never crossed. So rather than get bogged down in all the negative aspects, just look at it as a tool for connection, which then requires you to take responsibility to get offline and meet in person. You have opportunities every single day to meet your next significant other; how incredible is that! Online dating is also extremely helpful if you have a small social network, you’re stuck in a daily routine, or maybe you’re a single parent without a lot of free time because it makes it so easy to start chatting with someone new that you can go out and meet in a relatively short period of time.

WOW: Great points! Then I have to ask you about Rule Number One: Never Be Anyone’s Number Two. What do you mean by this? And should this start at the very beginning of a relationship? What about single parents who also have to worry about their kiddos?

Samantha: Rule number one: never be anyone’s number two means to me that you’re setting the standard for how you want to be treated. And when you love yourself, you believe you deserve to be someone’s priority, the same way you prioritize nurturing and cultivating a relationship with them. This is tied into the bigger theme of the book that you are worthy and deserving of a loving, fulfilling, committed relationship. After a big breakup, your self-esteem may be at an all-time low, and you may find yourself putting up with poor behavior from dating prospects because you feel desperate for attention, or you don’t believe that you’re worthy of more. When we date from a place of insecurity, feeling unlovable, or not valuing ourselves, we attract people who only validate those negative feelings. It’s important to remember that you’re in control of the type of attention you’re willing to accept, and when you value yourself, you will only accept behaviors that are in line with your self-concept. You need to develop this confidence, self-love, and self-respect before you even start dating so that you can approach dating in the right mindset, believing you are a catch! If you’re dating someone who can’t make you a priority or put in equal effort, than I wouldn’t wait around hoping they will change.

If you’re a parent, being ready to date again also means you’re taking care of your own needs as an adult who craves a romantic connection, and you’re no longer just wearing your mom or dad hat. You deserve a date night out; and if that means you have to hire a babysitter, doing so does not make you selfish. It will be a balance of learning how to date again, while taking care of your child and their needs. It’s important that you disclose to potential partners that you do have children and that being there for them is hugely important to you. However, if you’re someone who on a first date says your kids are your entire world and they come before anyone else, then someone who is open and ready for a commitment may be turned off by this because you’re making it sound like there’s no room in your life for someone else. The key is to convey how much you care about your children, but that you also know you’re willing and able to take steps to invest in a romantic relationship. Dating doesn’t mean you have to put your kids on the back burner; it just means you may have some extra juggling to do. I’ve come across singles who will only date people whose custody weekends align with theirs because they don’t want to be put in a situation where they have to choose between seeing their kids and seeing their lover. Dating someone who also has kids means they will typically be more understanding and lenient around things like cancellations and rescheduling because something came up with your kids. At the end of the day though, if you want a relationship, you have to put in the effort to make it work.

WOW: This is all so true. I know from experience--and you just gave more great advice. Anything you want to add?

Samantha: For anyone who loves the book but feels they need more intensive support in getting over their ex and creating the love life they deserve, I offer a Breakup Bounce Back program, which is 12-weeks of coaching support and a private group community of women going through similar situations who will understand what you’re experiencing. You can learn more on my “How to Get Over Your Breakup” webinar. Sign up here: http://bit.ly/BreakupBounceBackWebinar

WOW: Thank you, Samantha, for talking with us today! Readers who are interested in Breaking Up and Bouncing Back, can check it out here. You can also connect with Samantha at these places around the web: 




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Bake Your Way to Happiness Review and Giveaway

Thursday, May 19, 2016
If you liked Julia & Julia – either the book by Julie Powell, or the wonderful movie starring Amy Adams and Meryl Streep – you will love this book! In Bake Your Way to Happiness: Recipes and Strategies to Nourish and Heal, you will find fifteen recipes along with fifteen strategies to nourish your body and spirit, and which will help you heal from all kinds of modern-day stresses and ails: sadness, body image issues, low self-worth, negative thinking, fear, insomnia, mood swings, anger, inner child issues, self sabotage, anxiety and more.

How do you bake your way to happiness? The answer is easy. You bake the wonderful recipes that have been tested especially for you by food editor, Gilean Watts, and you follow the creative workbook reconstructions that have been formulated by registered expert therapist, Marilyn Riesz.

Both the recipes and the reconstructions have been proven to work! The recipes come from Gilean’s granny and, during Gilean’s time at university, when she was suffering from a bout of depression, Gilean used these very recipes to overcome depression. And Marilyn’s unique therapy of reconstruction has been called miraculous by her clients, who are amazed by the level of healing that they bring.

A friend of WOW also has a hand in Bake Your Way to Happiness! Lisa de Nikolits, who had several books of hers tour with WOW, traded in her author hat for something different this time. This publication sees her wearing her art director and designer hat, more than that of author. But she hasn't relinquished her writer hat! In fact, Bake Your Way to Happiness was inspired by one of her books – the protagonist in one of her forthcoming novels pens a collection of Bake Your Way therapy cookbooks and de Nikolits realized that her character's cookbooks could be a real thing! So, with the help of the extremely talented Gilean Watts and Marilyn Riesz,  Bake Your Way to Happiness became a reality.

Bake Your Way to Happiness is available as a paperback here.


About the Authors

Marilyn Riesz
Marilyn Riesz, MA, RP is a registered psychotherapist with over 16 years private practice experience treating eating disorders, depression, anxiety, OCD and relationship issues. Marilyn has published numerous academic articles, led workshops, seminars and conferences. In addition to supervising and training graduate psychology students, she has enjoyed making guest television appearances, and presenting inspiring lectures in the mental health community. For more information about Marilyn and her therapeutic techniques, please visit eatingdisorderstherapy.ca

Gilean Watts
Gilean Watts is a recipe developer, food editor and writer with over six years of experience in food media. She is currently a food editor for Canadian Living, and has previously worked for brands such as Clean Eating magazine and Yahoo Canada. Gilean is a graduate of George Brown College’s prestigious Chef School, and the founder of the food blog Stuck in Thyme. For more of her work, visit stuckinthyme.com.

Lisa de Nikolits
Lisa de Nikolits has art directed and worked on international magazine titles including Marie Claire (South Africa), Vogue (Australia), Vogue Living (Australia), Cosmopolitan (Australia), SHE (Australia), Canadian Health & Lifestyle, Cosmetics, and Canadian Living. She is the acclaimed author of five novels: The Hungry Mirror, West of Wawa, A Glittering Chaos, The Witchdoctor’s Bones and Between The Cracks She Fell (all Inanna Publications). Visit Lisa at lisadenikolitsdesign.com and lisadenikolitswriter.com.



*****Book Review of Bake Your Way to Happiness*****

I'm on board for any book that's going to encourage me to bake, but Bake Your Way to Happiness is so much more than that! Each chapter is a mini-self improvement course addressing a different issue: everything from mood swings to negativity to overextending yourself. Things we all deal with everyday but too often ignore because we "don't have time" to think about them or change bad habits.

Each short chapter is laid out the same way: a short writing on the chapter's issue, an activity or writing assignment to get you thinking about the issue in your life,  the recipe, a long term activity to change negative habits, a drawing (they even leave space in the book so no searching for paper needed) and space to write down some conclusions on the issue's affect on your life and the activities you've done while addressing it. The recipes are Watts' grandmother's recipes and are uniquely chosen to "fit" the issue. I love the body issue chapter with orange-cranberry bread where the discussion is about how orange-cranberry bread is wonderful no matter if it's oval or round and how different ingredients are equally important and delicious no matter what their size and shape.

This is a great book where (like a recipe book) you can pick and choose what chapters appeal to you and your needs. There's no wading through endless discussions. Instead they identify a common problem and dive right into what you can do to make simple changes if you have that problem that can add up to big changes in your life. Things like the recipes and the drawings add a light-hearted aspect to the book. Bake your Way to Happiness makes self-improvement fun!

Paperback: 142 pages
Publisher: CreateSpace (May 1, 2016)
ISBN: 1530539862

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