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Showing posts with label Noelle Sterne. Show all posts

Friday Speak Out!: ARE YOU TRYING TOO HARD TO WRITE

Friday, December 19, 2025

By Noelle Sterne

Is your writing forced? Stale? Flat? You may be trying too hard. I know when I am. The first sign is murmuring admiration of my turns of phrase. The second is imagining readers’ gasps of delight at my ingenuity. The third, and most important, is a yellow-red warning flare—Oh, oh, ego’s rising.

If I don’t pay attention to that flare, I know it heralds disaster. The work cannot help reflect this overconscious effort. Somehow, all the technique, wordplay, and resplendent diction overpower whatever message I want to convey.

The idea isn’t new; it’s been called the Law of Reversed Effort. Aldous Huxley said, “The harder we try with the conscious will to do something, the less we shall succeed.”

More specifically to us writers, in The Writer’s Book of Wisdom: 101 Rules for Mastering Your Craft, Stephen Taylor Goldsberry cautions, “Try not to overdo it. . . . Beware of contrived lyrical embellishment and fluffy metaphors” (p. 87). From my own work, I would add, beware of eloquent, balanced rhetoric. And repetition for effect. And overly ripe similes. And too-intricate expositions and too-pithy observations.

After reading Eat Pray Love, I read a transcript of an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert. When she worked on her next book, trying to imitate that first bestseller in the similar breezy, flippant, and pseudo-deep style, she produced 500 pages. Eventually realizing what she was doing, very courageously she junked the whole new manuscript.

Once Gilbert no longer tried to duplicate that success, she wrote a completely different book. Although Committed was not as successful as Eat Pray Love, its style and Gilbert’s reflections are honest and wholly appropriate to its subject, her misgivings about marriage.

Trying means we’re writing too self-consciously, usually to impress. In contrast, doing, as you probably know from your ecstatic writing stints, means total immersion. However many drafts we need, however many dives in the uncertain creative mud we can dare, our success rests not in trying but doing.

Like Gilbert in her post E-P-L foray, when we try to write impressively, even with all our might, we end up failing or at least falling short. Our writing lesson? Don’t try. Do—or don’t. Huxley has a lovely admonition: “Lightly, my child, lightly.”

Or maybe we’re moved not to write at all for a while. Or write a load of nonsense first, even though we know it’s crap. Or use the slash/option method incessantly (one of my favorites/best practices/most helpful methods/greatest techniques for skirting stuckness and continuing to slog). Maybe it means going back countless times to excise, refine, replace, restructure, or even, like Gilbert, pitch it all out.

So I tell myself, Stop trying to be clever and knowing. Stop trying to beat out your writing colleagues. Stop trying to show off your wit. Stop trying to replicate your recent success. All these tryings cut off your expressive truth and especially choke your honesty as a writer. Let’s all stop trying and watch our writing flow.

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Writer, editor, writing coach, and spiritual counselor, Noelle Sterne (PhD) publishes stories, essays, and poems in writing, literary, educational, women’s, and spiritual venues. A professional editor, Noelle mentors writers in the throes of their novels and memoirs as well as exasperated graduate students to completion of their dissertations. Her two published books: Challenges in Writing Your Dissertation (Rowman & Littlefield, 2015) and Trust Your Life: Forgive Yourself and Go After Your Dreams (Unity Books, 2011). Pursuing her own dream, she is completing her third novel. www.trustyourlifenow.com
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Friday Speak Out!: How to "Fix" Your Writing

Friday, May 08, 2015
by Noelle Sterne

You're writing along like butter. Suddenly a stomach-wrenching jolt slams you against a concrete wall. That harpy in your head rebukes: "THAT'S THE WORST, MOST HORRIBLE, STUPID PHRASE SINCE . . . ."

Take heart. Such a message doesn't have to plunge you into a full block. Recognize it for what it is--merely your old programming decreeing you shouldn't be writing, you'll never be a writer, and you might as well go sell burn phones (if that's not already your day job).

When I first heard that deafening, dismissive voice, it stopped me cold. First I sat staring at the blank screen. Then I wandered hopelessly around the house, like an orphan in a canyon. My current project lay abandoned, drafts yellowing and flashdrives demagnetizing.

I longed for a savior on a white laptop. Then I realized that only I could gallop to my rescue.

The next time the dread voice intoned, as usual I almost froze. But from some subconscious forest, the noble steed appeared. It charged me to type one more word that calmed, commanded, and cut through the hailstorm of criticism: FIX.

This innocent three-letter word triggers a palliative magic that renders the monstrous screamer powerless and keeps me writing.

Why?

1. It tells me that what I've just written isn't typed in cement.

2. It reminds me that this is only my first draft, or fifth, or fifteenth.

3. It assures me I've got as many drafts as I want.

4. It admits that this might not be my finest hour, but so what?

5. It reassures that the writing process is one of trial and error, coaxing and courting, boldness, patience, and courage.

6. And, most miraculously, it shows me I can trust my mind.

How? Typing FIX mysteriously releases my imprisoned creativity.

After I type the word, two seconds or two minutes later, as I'm deep into the next paragraph, my eyes flit back up the screen. With hardly conscious thought, like apples bobbing up in water, new words surface. They're invariably better than those in front of me, and sometimes even the right ones.

For example, a few lines back, the orphan simile came rather easily. But the words directly before it ignited that shrew's abuse:
I mope around like an orphan . . .
I feel like an orphan . . .

I wanted to run for the coal cellar. Yet, holding on, I pecked out FIX. Three lines and barely five minutes later, the right phrase popped up, and I wandered hopelessly no more.

Even if you’ve developed your own methods to tame your personal harridan, remember this. The next time you hear that frightful condemning voice, just type that one magnificent word. You'll be astounded at your greater editorial sharpness, confidence, and creativity. You'll see that you can FIX anything.

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Author, editor, writing coach, and spiritual counselor, Noelle Sterne publishes writing craft and spiritual articles, essays, and fiction in print and online venues. A longtime academic editor, she assists doctoral students to complete their dissertations (finally). Her Trust Your Life: Forgive Yourself and Go After Your Dreams (Unity Books) contains examples from her practice, writing, and other aspects of life to show readers how to release regrets, relabel their past, and reach lifelong yearnings. Her forthcoming book helps doctoral candidates deal with often overlooked or ignored but crucial aspects that can impede completion: Challenges in Writing Your Dissertation: Coping With the Emotional, Interpersonal, and Spiritual Struggles (Rowman & Littlefield Education, September 2015). Website: www.trustyourlifenow.com
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