Hmmmm....not sure how to choose between the two. That's like asking if someone wants cream or coffee. They go hand in hand, right?
Sometimes both processes can be overwhelming. Is the rejection of publishing more difficult than re-writing and re-organizing with editing? I think both processes can make us feel a bit broken. A bit off our game. As I was pondering this last evening, I read a lovely line from Ann Voskamp's Be the Gift :
You are the most loved,
not when you're pretending
to have it all together;
you are actually the most loved
when you feel broken and
falling apart.
Isn't that great to see in print? Especially this time of year? Especially when you're writing and re-writing, editing and re-editing? Especially when you are querying and facing what seems like an ocean full of rejection with no life vest in sight?
Some solid advice whenever we feel we are falling apart, whether it be editing, publishing, surviving the holidays, muddling through parenthood is this:
1) STOP - take a deep breath and feel the love around you.
2) ASSESS - sit down (with a cup of coffee preferably) and look at the situation as objectively as possible. If you're a list maker, make a list of everything that needs to be done.
3) FOCUS - focus on the goal at hand. If you're editing, remember the reason you started writing and focus on the fact your book will be available for purchase someday. If you are querying for a publisher, remember each no gets you closer to a yes which brings you closer to the best seller list!
4) MOMENTUM - keep your momentum going by putting one foot in front of the other. Before long you'll be moving more quickly and the end goal will be within arm's reach.
5) CELEBRATE - this is the part where you look at where you were during step one and reward yourself and those around you for making it this far!
Here in the Otto house, we are in the first week of Advent and it's a busy time as a church organist, mother, wife, and friend. I often feel a bit frazzled and disconnected. It's been incredibly helpful to sit down each morning and walk through these steps. Some days, the list helps me move through the mountain of laundry without cussing under my breath. Some days, it's just a matter of putting one foot in front of the other and celebrating at the end of the day by crawling under the covers and vowing I'll smile a bit more tomorrow. Other times, it's writing and re-writing the same sentence and eventually removing it completely only to put it back in the very next day.
What do you find most difficult right now? What advice would you give to others as far as moving forward? What did you learn from editing or publishing? Which did you enjoy more?
Please leave your thoughts and ideas - WE LOVE to hear from you!
~Crystal
Crystal is a council secretary and musician at her church, birth mother, babywearing cloth diapering mama (aka crunchy mama), business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Publicist with Dream of Things Publishing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband, five young children (Carmen 10, Andre 9, Breccan 4, Delphine 2, and baby Eudora, two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, and over 230 Holsteins.
You can find Crystal riding unicorns, taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books, baby carriers, cloth diapers, and all sorts of other stuff here, and at her personal blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade!
4 comments:
Great advice to stop, first of all, and take a deep breath. These steps are exactly what I needed to read today, because I feel like I'm having more "crawl under the covers" kind of days than not! Thanks for sharing this.
I like your list a lot. I have noticed more and more that when in the middle of a tough time or a conflict, sometimes stopping and assessing before reacting makes a ton of difference. With your post, I can see how this could also help if you are struggling with something in your writing. :)
I appreciate your list as well, Crystal! #1 is the best and something I forget to do. It makes a huge difference.
Crystal--I'm with Angela. #1 is something I neglect to do--and one I need to do more often.
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