Editing or Publishing?

Which is more difficult, editing or publishing?

Hmmmm....not sure how to choose between the two. That's like asking if someone wants cream or coffee. They go hand in hand, right?

Sometimes both processes can be overwhelming. Is the rejection of publishing more difficult than re-writing and re-organizing with editing? I think both processes can make us feel a bit broken. A bit off our game. As I was pondering this last evening, I read a lovely line from Ann Voskamp's Be the Gift :

You are the most loved, 

not when you're pretending 

to have it all together; 

you are actually the most loved 

when you feel broken and 

falling apart.

Isn't that great to see in print? Especially this time of year? Especially when you're writing and re-writing, editing and re-editing? Especially when you are querying and facing what seems like an ocean full of rejection with no life vest in sight?

Some solid advice whenever we feel we are falling apart, whether it be editing, publishing, surviving the holidays, muddling through parenthood is this:

1) STOP - take a deep breath and feel the love around you.

2) ASSESS - sit down (with a cup of coffee preferably) and look at the situation as objectively as possible. If you're a list maker, make a list of everything that needs to be done.

3) FOCUS - focus on the goal at hand. If you're editing, remember the reason you started writing and focus on the fact your book will be available for purchase someday. If you are querying for a publisher, remember each no gets you closer to a yes which brings you closer to the best seller list!

4) MOMENTUM - keep your momentum going by putting one foot in front of the other. Before long you'll be moving more quickly and the end goal will be within arm's reach.

5) CELEBRATE - this is the part where you look at where you were during step one and reward yourself and those around you for making it this far!

Here in the Otto house, we are in the first week of Advent and it's a busy time as a church organist, mother, wife, and friend. I often feel a bit frazzled and disconnected. It's been incredibly helpful to sit down each morning and walk through these steps. Some days, the list helps me move through the mountain of laundry without cussing under my breath. Some days, it's just a matter of putting one foot in front of the other and celebrating at the end of the day by crawling under the covers and vowing I'll smile a bit more tomorrow. Other times, it's writing and re-writing the same sentence and eventually removing it completely only to put it back in the very next day.

What do you find most difficult right now? What advice would you give to others as far as moving forward? What did you learn from editing or publishing? Which did you enjoy more?

Please leave your thoughts and ideas - WE LOVE to hear from you!

Hugs,
~Crystal

Crystal is a council secretary and musician at her church, birth mother, babywearing cloth diapering mama (aka crunchy mama), business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Publicist with Dream of Things Publishing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband, five young children (Carmen 10, Andre 9, Breccan 4, Delphine 2, and baby Eudora, two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, and over 230 Holsteins.

You can find Crystal riding unicorns, taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books, baby carriers, cloth diapers, and all sorts of other stuff here, and at her personal blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade!

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Mom Writers on Entertaining Toddlers

Lots of us write and work from home while wearing our Mom hat. Older children can be distracted with books, electronics, or other quiet activities. Toddlers are a different story. In an online group someone recently asked for ideas and tips on entertaining toddlers while writing from home. I've compiled a few ideas and suggestions that can be helpful. Please leave your comments, suggestions, and ideas in the comment section. (even just words of encouragement are greatly appreciated)

1) An empty cardboard box - provides endless fun and imagination. Add some washable markers or crayons to make a space-ship, or some blankets and pillows for a slumber party!

2) An inflatable ball pit/pool/bounce house - with or without the balls can be super fun. These don't last long in our house so I never buy anything too terribly expensive, and be prepared...if you do add balls, you'll be picking them up quite often. I like to think of it as my daily aerobic activity and the children really enjoy throwing them around (they're too soft to hurt anyone or anything).

3) Inexpensive toys - cheap toys from the dollar store (hard hats, Dr kits, etc...) can be a lot of fun. Even though they break easily, I don't usually care much since they're super cheap and instead of expecting the toddlers to share a pricier item, they can each have their own.

4) Old clothing - not sure what to do with that old prom dress, fancy blouse with the stain on it? Fill a box with those old items and allow the toddlers to play dress up. Just prepare yourself as some adventurous kiddos may attempt to take off all their clothing before putting on the dress clothes. I like to supervise this activity by asking them to show me each outfit after they've put it on and before they role-play.

5) Television - it's okay if sometimes you turn on a children's program so you can get some work done. My current favorite is Beat Bugs on Netflix because the songs are enjoyable as opposed to being annoying or just tolerable. I'm not a huge fan of television, but sometimes a mom has to do what a mom has to do, right?




As a mom with toddlers as well as older children, some of the best advice I can offer is that this too in time shall pass. It's not always possible to write from home with the children around. Sometimes I wait until they're in bed, sometimes I wait until someone else can watch them and I sneak off to a coffee shop, and other times I grab a notebook and we head outdoors or to the park where they can play a little more freely and I can jot down ideas.

Parenting isn't easy and neither is writing. Be forgiving of yourself and your children. I have a quote on my bathroom mirror reminding me::

I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection

What has worked for you? What advice can you offer to others? We love hearing from you and thanks in advance for your comments and support!

Hugs,

~Crystal

Crystal is a council secretary and musician at her church, birth mother, babywearing cloth diapering
mama (aka crunchy mama), business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Publicist with Dream of Things Publishing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband, four young children (Carmen 10, Andre 9, Breccan 3, Delphine 2, and baby Eudora due this fall), two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, and over 230 Holsteins.

You can find Crystal riding unicorns, taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books, baby carriers, cloth diapers, and all sorts of other stuff here, and at her personal blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade!

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