Showing posts with label writing and parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writing and parenting. Show all posts

Friday Speak Out!: Finding Your Writing Rhythm: How I Turned My Morning Chaos into Creative Gold

Friday, February 07, 2025
by Leslie Williams

As a mother of two young children and a freelance writer, my mornings used to feel like a tornado of lunch boxes, missing socks, and half-finished manuscripts. I'd watch the clock tick away, promising myself I'd write "later" – a mythical time that rarely materialized. Sound familiar? But what if I told you that the very chaos I was fighting could become my greatest writing asset?

Here's how I transformed my morning mayhem into a sustainable writing practice, and how you can too:

1. Embrace the Imperfect Time Block

I discovered that waiting for the "perfect" writing time was my biggest mistake. Instead of craving uninterrupted hours, I learned to work with what I call "pocket moments" – those 15-20 minute gaps between making breakfast and school drop-off, or while waiting at soccer practice. These fragments add up surprisingly fast.

Practical Tip: Keep a small notebook or use your phone's note-taking app to capture ideas during these pocket moments. Some of my best story concepts have come while waiting for the pasta water to boil.

2. Turn Distractions into Material

Remember that time your toddler flushed your car keys down the toilet? Or when your teenager's drama rivaled your novel's subplot? These aren't interruptions – they're material. I started keeping a "chaos journal" where I document these daily disruptions. These real-life moments have become gold mines for authentic character development and dialogue.

3. Create a Mobile Writing Station

Since I couldn't guarantee where or when I'd find time to write, I created a portable writing kit. It includes:

  • A tablet with a bluetooth keyboard
  • Noise-canceling earbuds
  • A small notebook and pen 
  • Writing prompts on index cards

This kit goes everywhere with me, turning school pickup lines and dentist waiting rooms into pop-up writing offices.

4. The Power of the "Terrible Ten"

Here's my most effective strategy: I commit to writing ten terrible sentences every day. Just ten. They can be awful, ungrammatical, or completely unusable. This removes the pressure of perfection and often leads to writing much more than planned. Some of my published pieces started as "terrible ten" exercises.

5. Build Your Support System

I joined an online writing group specifically for parents who write. We meet virtually twice a month, share resources, and most importantly, understand when someone has to step away because of a juice box emergency. Having this community has been invaluable for both accountability and encouragement.

The Result?

By implementing these strategies, I've published three short stories and completed my first novel draft – all within the beautiful chaos of family life. My productivity actually increased when I stopped fighting against my circumstances and learned to work with them instead.

Remember: Your writing journey doesn't have to look like anyone else's. The key is finding rhythms that work within your reality, not despite it. Those stolen moments between life's demands? They're not just good enough – they might be exactly what your creative process needs.

Start today: Pick one strategy from above and try it for a week. You might be surprised to find that your best writing doesn't come from perfect silence, but from the beautiful mess of real life.

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Leslie Williams is a freelance writer, chaotic-morning connoisseur, and mother of two who’s mastered the art of drafting novels between school runs and snack time.

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Document the Moments

Wednesday, August 10, 2022


 

Yesterday was a bittersweet day for me. I drove my first-born child to the airport so she could arrive on her new college campus early. After thinking we had all the essentials ordered and packed for her upcoming move to Alabama, she received a phone call this weekend that a spot had opened in their prestigious marching band. She auditioned for the band back in the spring but was first put on the wait list. She wasn’t too surprised, as this band has hundreds of members and is highly competitive. The phone call meant we needed to try and get her on campus a few days early so she could join the band camp already in progress, leaving us to move the rest of her things later this week. As a parent, it made me so happy to see her jumping up and down with joy, as playing music has always been such a huge part of her life and she's dreamed of marching for a large university. 

As I’ve been cleaning up my files in the past few weeks, I came across a file folder called “Active Queries.” It made me laugh a bit, because it had obviously been quite a while since I updated this “active” list. I smiled as I flipped through the pages, knowing I’d made so many of the notes when my kids were much smaller. I had outlines of magazine article ideas, along with copies of e-mails I’d sent to editors and PR professionals inquiring about information to help strengthen my queries. I listed a years’ worth of fiction stories in “Highlights,” the children’s magazine, as well as topics Family Fun covered back in 2012. I found the typewritten pages of a short story I wrote for children when we first rescued our dog, Sonic. These days, Sonic moves much slower and has arthritis in his hind legs. He snores loudly under my desk, and I don’t have the heart to wake him up half the time. In this story for children, I shared the story of how Sonic found his new home, how he tried to escape by climbing a split rail fence in our backyard after his new owners scolded at him for nipping at one of the children, and how he eventually decided his new family wasn’t so bad. I wrote this story mostly for our kids and never managed to sell it, but I found it comforting that I found it a few days after that child he nipped hugged him long and hard, telling him he’d better be here waiting when she visits home for Thanksgiving. 

Finding this folder and these notes reminded me how hard I’ve worked over the years, determined to make a living as a writer but still carve out a lifestyle where I could be present in my kids’ lives. I can’t help but feel I succeeded in the most important ways possible, and I’m also so grateful I took the time to hold on to these stories and folders that remind me of the special moments when I least expect them.

Renee Roberson is an award-winning writer and magazine editor who also produces the true crime podcast, Missing in the Carolinas. 
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Friday Speak Out!: How to Balance Parenting and Writing

Friday, June 10, 2022
by Fatima Farooq

I couldn’t believe it when my best friend asked me: "How would you manage kids and content writing together?" My fussed look took her by surprise as she thought she had asked a legitimate question. To me, however, it was not something that needed much focus.

What the hell did I know?!! The moment I started writing articles as part of my new job, I knew what my best friend was talking about. It is a tedious task. Not only does writing demand time, but it also warrants uninterrupted concentration to let one’s creative juices flow.

Any female writer with kids and their endless tirades would know that both require a mystical equilibrium that is far from being readily achievable.

But don’t let this come in the way of choosing the career of your dreams. If you’re thinking: Is writing and maintaining family life a balance that is impossible to achieve? Well, the answer is a clear NO.

As I discovered, there IS something that you can do to create a favorable atmosphere where you can successfully extract valuable time from your daily chores while giving 100% attention to your family commitments.

Curious to know what these are? Dive right in:

- Place importance on your work

The first important step is to sit down with your kids and tell them just how vital your career is for your personal growth. You can put in factors like you having a lively overall persona, better financial aspects, along with any other features that may pertain to your personal life.

Kids today are more clever than we might give credit to! They understand what we say to them when we treat them like adults.

- Assign a place of work

Remember that your living room might be occupied all the time by busy kids or pets. It always helps to have a secluded place of work so your kids would know that you shouldn’t be disturbed while sitting there.

Even if you don’t have room to spare, don’t worry. Picking your bedroom’s corner or placing a desk and chair in the backyard may work too.

- Pick a specific work time

As choosing a separate work spot is important, so is assigning a fixed time of the day for writing. It will help you to juggle other family chores around this time. Your kids would also know that mom is unavailable at certain times of the day and they are more likely to work their schedules accordingly.

See! Balancing home life/parenting while maintaining an active writing career isn’t that hard after all. All you need is to be a little organized, a tad bit prioritized, and a dash of luck and Voila! All good to go!

Good luck!

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I am a Senior Content Writer at Pritningblue since 2019. The company is based in Los Angeles, USA. My work typically revolves around marketing and SEO but I occasionally write non-fiction to flex my creative muscles. I got my BA (Hons) in English studies from Anglia Ruskin University, UK in 2014. When not working I love to read, cook, travel, and take care of my pet cat Harry so he doesn't scratch every piece of furniture in the house.
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Friday Speak Out!: When Life Is Too Busy, Write Anyway

Friday, January 28, 2022
by Bethany Jarmul

If you’ve ever sought out counsel on how to create a consistent writing habit, you’ve probably heard these bits of advice: 1. Schedule uninterrupted time, at the same time everyday. 2. Find a quiet place, free of distractions—a place set aside only for writing. 3. Set a daily word count goal and don’t stop writing until you reach your goal.

I recognize the wisdom of this advice. But for me—a work-from-home mom with a three-month-old and a two-year-old—it sounds like a fantasy. I imagine a spacious library brimming with antique books, an ornate writing desk, Mozart playing in the background. I sit down with my quill and parchment to pen an elegant sonnet or Sherlock-Holmes-style mystery.

In reality, my small house, overflowing with rainbow-colored blocks, diapers, wipes, and every assortment of baby or toddler accessories is not a conducive environment for writing. I don’t have the luxury of a “writing room” or even a “writing corner.” I have a crumb-covered couch and a laptop that’s missing the question mark key (thanks to my curious toddler). In the pre-pandemic world, perhaps I could have found solitude and order in a local coffee shop or library. But the truth is if I don’t write at home I won’t write at all.

As for uninterrupted time, well, even the precious, planned moments when both kids should be napping or in bed for the night are not at all predictable. And most often my soundtrack is a crying baby or the repetitive jingle: “Snack? Snack. Mommy, snack please. Snack!”

But I’ve decided, I’m going to write anyway. In this season, I’m not going to write 1,000 words a day. I probably won’t finish, or even begin, a draft of a novel. But I will write essays, short stories, and poetry. I will use what little time I have to write, to read, to brainstorm.

So I’ve decided to come up with my own set of guidelines, for myself and those who have busy lives, cluttered spaces, or unpredictable interruptions:

1. When I have spare time—be it two hours or ten minutes—I will prioritize writing.

 

2. I will write in whatever space I have available to me, even if it is small, messy, or loud.

 

3.  I will utilize the small idle moments, like waiting at the doctor’s office or DMV.

 

4. When I am too tired to write, I will read. When I’m too tired to read, I will sleep.

 

      5.  I will set realistic goals and keep moving forward, even if it’s at a turtle’s pace.  

I’ve decided that no matter what life throws at me, regardless of what season I’m in, I’m still a writer. And that has made all the difference.
 
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Bethany Jarmul is a writer and work-from-home mom. Her work has appeared or is forthcoming in 
Literary Mama, Scribes*MICRO*Fiction, Sky Island Journal, and Allium, A Journal of Poetry & Prose. She grew up in the hills of West Virginia and lives in Pittsburgh, PA with her husband and two kids. Connect with her on Instagram or Twitter: @bethanyjarmul.
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Friday Speak Out!: How to balance parenting with writing

Friday, March 12, 2021
by Laura Nyangeri

The world is full of ups and downs and many people resort to ways of making an extra coin that could help sustain their families. For those who love writing like me, they would end up in venturing to writing as a way of side hustle. You are not wrong, for this is particularly good but there lies so many challenges in the writing career. The challenge becomes even escalated if you are parenting and at the same time writing. Am here not to scare you but to offer some help through strategies that I have used to balance my parenting together with writing. Use them and you will reap good results:

● Wake up early

The early bird catches the worm. This is a true saying as waking up early routinely helps and setting the mind this way trains itself, gets used to be awake at that particular time.

● Carry out some exercises

These help to keep the body healthy such as light lifting, jogging and press ups. Exercise helps with proper blood flow, cuts down on unhealthy fats and keeps one alert due to proper circulation of fresh air to the brain.

● Write down the plan for the day

This can be done either during night time before going to bed or early in the morning. This helps you to be organized you won't have to rush up and down from the kitchen to the bathroom in an unorderly manner. Also, this allows you to move form from one activity to the next without waste of time. Remember no wasted time can be recovered.

● Spend some time with your family

This can be done particularly in meals such as breakfast and supper. Have some time to enjoy with your family since they are the biggest reason why you are getting out of your comfort zone to make ends meet. This will provide a good bonding time and you will also know what's happening, problems to fix and so forth.

● Communication

Sounds like something common to do? Or maybe you can think it at the back of your mind' I know that my children know am a busy mom' absolutely no! You need to communicate with your children and everyone in your household about your work. This will help them understand that it's not only sitting with a laptop and typing. You can try and even give them an insight of what you are writing about and they can brainstorm it. By doing this, it helped me a lot since my children are always curious and ready to offer help. They are two juniors a girl and boy 5 and 4 years respectively. Mostly my daughter likes to copy what I write hence I usually give her a book and a pen so that she can copy paste as much as she wants! But trust me, she loves this and am also able to guide her and this helps me with my parenting.

● Distribute duties

Break down activities to each and every family member in the household. In my house, everyone has a part to play. My daughter is responsible for tidying the house, clearing the table after meals and helps in washing tomatoes and cucumbers. My son does the dustbin emptying, lays food on the table and grates carrots. So everyone knows their duties. This helps to save time and am left with more time to engage in writing!

Try practicing these and you will never regret writing as you parent!

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Laura is a nutrition enthusiast who is passionate about working with people from all walks of life to help them achieve better health with application of appropriate nutrition.

Laura got her education from Kenya Medical Training college with a diploma in community nutrition. In her quest for leadership skills, Laura has attained training on the same from open source leadership training from Commonwealth and participated as a mentor with Melton foundation.

Laura has opened up an organization which aims to help teenage mothers to attain good nutrition for their children together with skills and entrepreneurial training among other activities.

In her free time, Laura likes to try out new recipes, nature walk, volunteering in community activities, and traveling. Laura is inspired by her husband and two kids.

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Friday Speak Out!: How To Keep Stress From Killing You (And Write)

Friday, June 28, 2019
by Iona Caldwell

If there is one thing I’ve learned from writing my first novel while balancing a full-time job as a stay at home mom, a wife, a gardener, a druid, etc, it’s how to keep stress from killing you.

I kid you not. There were times I thought I wanted to give it up until the kids were out of the house and life slowed down.

I know I’m not the only who suffers this. So, to help all of you parents trying to balance life and pursuing your dreams, let me share a few tips.

1. The TV (and game systems) Are Our Friends

Yes, you read that right. There is nothing wrong with letting the munchkins enjoy cartoons while you write For those of you hissing at me right now and who happen to have young kids, try it out. It really works. They’re happy, you can write, everyone wins.

2. Have A She-Shed or Man-Cave Where You Can Write in Peace

For me, my she-shed happens to be my sofa with a cup of coffee once the kids have gone to bed. Having a space you can take a few minutes to sit in the dark and unwind can mean the difference between writing stressfully and enjoying it. Give yourself ten minutes to let the day fall off of you.

3. Start a Pre-Writing Ritual

It may sound silly to some but since I’ve implemented this one thing, it’s meant all the difference between procrastinating and getting a good hour of writing in. I take 20-minutes to meditate before writing anything, including an infuser filled with sandalwood and some inspirational music. This happens every time I plan a writing session. I can’t tell you what a difference it makes. If you don’t meditate, take a hot bath, workout on your Peloton. Whatever works for you to mentally prepare to write, do it. It matters, believe me.

4. Tell Yourself It’s Okay NOT to Write Every Day

I hear those hisses again through the screen. It’s true though. I don’t write every day and I’ve it actually helps my creative well from running dry. For me, my stories flowed better, I suffered less eye strain and less stress to ride the “struggle bus.”

5. Tell Yourself You Matter

I don’t really have much else to say on this one other than taking days for self-care have made managing stress so much easier. I told myself it’s okay on the weekends to ignore deadlines and run around Borderlands 2 and shoot bandits with my husband. On Fridays, I enjoy family night with my kids. Whatever hobby you have, it’s okay to take care of yourself.

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My name is Iona Caldwell. I'm the author of the British Occult Fiction, Beneath London's Fog set to be published by FyreSyde Publishing October 2019. When I'm not busy weaving worlds of the arcane and dark, I'm spending time out in nature. I love books. My biggest inspirations are H.P Lovecraft, Stephen King, Neil Gaiman and Edgar Allen Poe. I blog about many things but mostly everything bookish. All of my novels are stand-alone novellas, each with a cast of people I hope my readers will come to love as much as I have.

Website: ionacaldwell.weebly.com,
Review Blog: theantleredcrown.weebly.com
Instagram:Instagram.com/authorionacaldwell
Twitter: Twitter.com/IonaCaldwell7
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/18941876.Iona_Caldwell
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Interview with Evelyn Krieger, Q1 2018 Creative Nonfiction Runner Up

Sunday, March 24, 2019
Evelyn Krieger is a writer and educational consultant in the Boston area. Her fiction and essays have appeared in Hippocampus, Lilith, Gemini, Family Circle, Sunlight Press, Grown & Flown, Writer’s Digest, Teachers & Writers, Learning, and other publications. Her essay, “Losing My Words”, won 2nd place in the 2018 Memoir Magazine Recovery Essay Contest. Evelyn’s debut middle-grade novel, One Is Not A Lonely Number, was named a 2011 Sydney Taylor Honor Book from the Association of Jewish Libraries, and is a PJ OurWay Library selection. Evelyn has received professional grants from Wells Fargo Bank, Business Week, and Newton Public Schools. Her writing has been supported by a residency at the Vermont Studio Center for the Arts and TENT Children’s Literature Retreat. When she’s not wordsmithing, Evelyn loves dancing, listening to music, and spending time with her growing family. Visit her at EvelynKrieger.net.

interview by Marcia Peterson

WOW: Congratulations on your top ten win in our 2018 Q1 Creative Nonfiction essay competition! What prompted you to enter the contest?

Evelyn: Thank you. I’m honored to have made the Top Ten. I’ve been entering writing competitions since I was in my teens. Entering contests is a way to stay motivated. Having imposed deadlines keeps me sharp and forces me to revise and polish my work. I’m fortunate to have had several wins amongst the slew of rejections. I’ve been a fan of the WOW! website and blog for quite a while. I won an Honorable Mention in the WOW! 2016 Fiction contest. I like the transparency of the judging process and the support given to entrants. I had just completed writing "The Geometry of Grief" when I saw the call for the WOW! 2018 Q1 contest.

WOW: Your entry, “The Geometry of Grief” is creatively done and builds up to an elegant and powerful conclusion. What inspired you to write this essay?

Evelyn: I had been thinking a lot about the nature of grief after my sister-in-law passed away four years ago leaving behind her husband of 25 years and three children of similar ages to my own. A year after this terrible loss, my father was badly burned in a fire. For me, the shock, painful ending, lack of goodbye, and many other factors too complicated to go into, brought on a debilitating grief. Through therapy, the support of friends and family, time, and eventually writing, I began to recover and heal. I have published three other essays and a few blog posts related to loss and trauma. Writing can help contain the explosive emotions and fragmented images of grief. I like this quote from Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D., “While trauma keeps us dumbfounded, the path out of it is paved with words, carefully assembled, piece by piece, until the whole story can be revealed.”

I’ve noticed how the experience of grief is both universal and individual. The nature of the grief—it’s intensity and duration—is tied to the relationship with your loved one, the circumstances of death, and your own psychology. When trying to describe what grief feels like, one is often left to metaphor. For me, grief is an ever-shifting shape with sharp edges. Now, three years later, the edges have smoothed, no longer tearing at my inside. I’ve been able to move away from the fixation the horrific ending to all the love that came before. While grief's shadow remains, I try hard to keep facing the light. That was the inspiration for the “Geometry of Grief”. I want others to know that there is a way out.

WOW: As an educational consultant and busy mom, how do you find time to write? What works best for you?

Evelyn: During the busy days of parenthood, I wrote my first YA novel on Sunday mornings at Starbucks, during my daughter’s dance lessons, during summer vacations, and whenever I found a stretch of time. You have to tweak your writing schedule year to year. The key to making this work, no matter what stage of child-rearing you are in, is having a consistent schedule. In order to write my first teacher’s nonfiction book, I had to I’d hire a babysitter. With my youngest child now off to college, I am no longer as busy as I was when all three were at home. My part-time consulting work involves academic tutoring, test prep, college coaching, and homeschool consulting. This consumes a great deal of energy. I love my work, but some days working in a bookstore looks a lot more appealing. I try to keep mornings free for writing. After putting my writing career second (or third) for so long, I’ve now switched gears. This has brought more satisfaction, productivity, and success. Here are two quotes that keep me motivated: “If not now, when?” and “A year from now, you’ll regret not having started."

WOW: Are you working on any writing projects right now? What’s next for you?

Evelyn: I’ve always juggled several writing projects at once. I write short stories, essays, articles, memoir, novels, and a monthly blog on the creative life. I’m currently working on a middle-grade novel, Summer of the Blue Streak, set in 1968. I’m trying to stay focused on finishing the first draft, but I do have a few essays brewing which I turn to when I’m feeling stuck on the novel. I also have a “back burner” project—an adult novel--that I’m excited about. Writing that story will be my reward for finishing the children’s novel.

WOW: Thanks so much for chatting with us today, Evelyn! Before you go, do you have any tips for our readers who may be thinking about entering writing contests?

Evelyn: Yes! I was just thinking about writing a blog post on this topic. Here goes:

1. Don’t send any work that feels “iffy." Revise and polish your story/essay/poem until it shines. Then find a trusty reader to give you feedback before submitting, if possible. Still, even after entering, you may later see how to make your submission better. This happens to me a lot. In fact, I’ve already added a paragraph to my WOW winning essay.

2. Thoroughly research the contest sponsor to understand the type of writing it seeks. Look carefully at the judging criteria. Read past winning entries, if available. How does your work stack up?

3. Consider your competition. Maybe start with smaller, less well-known contests or local ones.

4. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t win or place (although I know this is hard). Be proud of your efforts. You’re growing a body of work. Keep revising your manuscripts and submitting them elsewhere. I’ve resubmitted a non-winning story (with revisions) to the same contest in a different year and won a prize.

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Interview with First Place Essay Contest Winner, Shannon Stocker

Sunday, February 04, 2018
Shannon Stocker was looking forward to a career in pediatrics when, during her last year of medical school, she became sick with Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy—an illness that nearly took her life. After seven years of fighting, Shannon and her husband left the country to take place in an experimental treatment that would forever change their lives. Now a full-time mother and writer, Shannon is thrilled to have experienced some exciting literary successes in 2017. Last September, her story, “Marcela’s Vision,” was published in Chicken Soup for the Soul: Dreams and the Unexplainable. She sold her first picture book (Can U Save the Day), to be published by Sleeping Bear Press in 2019. Her picture book manuscript, Bella the Small, won an SCBWI Honorable Mention distinction, as well as two CBA Golden Ticket Awards. She was also honored to have been featured in two podcasts (Five Things and Painopolis). Shannon is looking forward to being interviewed by Amy Newmark for the Chicken Soup for the Soul podcast on January 9th, and she’s optimistic that she will soon finish her memoir. Shannon can be followed by subscribing to her website/blog at www.shannonstocker.com, and she can be found tweeting positive affirmations at @iwriteforkidz on Twitter.

Interview by Marcia Peterson

WOW: Congratulations on winning first place in our 2017 essay competition! What prompted you to enter the contest?

Shannon: Thank you so much! I’m incredibly honored. I’ve been watching and reading flash fiction on WOW! for a couple of years now. I have tremendous respect for the people who have mastered that particular art form – I, most certainly, have not. My strengths tend to be more in the form of non-fiction essays and children’s literature… so when the opportunity to enter a non-fiction piece popped up, I jumped at the chance.

WOW: Your essay, “This, Too, Shall Pass” touches on the temporary nature of everything—good and bad. What inspired you to write this particular story?

Shannon: Almost everything I write is inspired by my children, Cassidy and Tye. This particular essay was inspired by my son. I remember the morning well: I was running late to get the children to school, which meant I would be late for work. I was panicked and impatient. My husband was grumpy. And my son was clingy. As I rushed around the kitchen, Tye repeatedly positioned himself on the floor between me and the fridge – between me and the sink – between me and the stove. Over and over, he wrapped his little body around my feet, slowing me down. Eventually, my tone sharpened. My volume increased. Before I knew it, I was yelling... and he was crying. That’s when it hit me. I would soon forget my boss’s anger and my husband’s grumpiness. But I didn’t want to forget the moments my son couldn’t bear to be separated from me. As I realized that those memories, too, will fade, I dropped to the floor and held him. At that moment, I vowed to write this essay.

WOW: You mention that you’re almost finished with your memoir. What has your memoir writing journey been like?

Shannon: Wow… that’s a tough question. It’s been very difficult, emotionally, but it’s also been incredibly rewarding. I’ve been through so much in my life. I was abused as a child by two separate trusted adults, then drugged in a bar as an adult. I spent eleven years in college, grad school, and med school, only to have to abandon it all when I became sick for seven years. I left the country to go through an experimental treatment (I was induced into a coma) in an effort to save my life. And this is all just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. In recreating my story, I expected to relive some painful memories. I did not, however, expect to relive many of them through my husband’s eyes. I’ve read dozens of notes that he wrote over the years - to me, to physicians on my behalf, to himself. To see my life through his eyes has been an entirely different, and unexpected, kind of pain. But it’s been healing, and bonding, and beautiful, too. I married an angel. Writing my memoir has been a master class in gratitude for me. I want to be a fountain of hope for people who are hurting.

WOW: You're an inspiration! Is there a particular memoir you think everyone needs to read?

Shannon: Another great question for me! I love memoirs and have read them voraciously since I decided to write my own. BRAIN ON FIRE and WHEN BREATH BECOMES AIR are two of my favorite medical memoirs, but there are so many good ones: RUNNING WITH SCISSORS, THE REAL DOCTOR WILL SEE YOU SHORTLY, BEYOND BELIEF, 1,000 NAKED STRANGERS. But if I could choose only one, I think I’d have to go with THE GLASS CASTLE, by Jeannette Walls. It’s poignant, heartbreaking, funny, and thought-provoking. Although her life was unbelievably chaotic, Ms. Walls is still, somehow, relatable. If I can connect with readers with half her grace and brutal honesty, I will have done my job.

WOW: Besides memoir and essay writing, you’re also a children’s author and blogger. How do you juggle the different types of writing that you do? Anything you can share about the process?

Shannon: I’ve actually found this to be the most difficult aspect of my work. Like so many other female writers, I’m a wife and mother first. When my family needs me, everything else pauses. This can make scheduling impossible to predict. Because the voices I use are so different, I’ve had a difficult time writing my memoir and my picture books on the same day. Most of the time, I’ve needed a weekend to separate the genres. In fact, last year I worked on my memoir for a few weeks, and then I switched to children’s literature for a few weeks. As to blogging, I’m not religious about it - I’ve used it more as a personal journal than a way to build followers. I blog only when I have something to say or work through. I know there’s probably a better way to navigate all the waters, but I haven’t found it yet. I wind up spending a week re-reading my memoir and catching up on research before I can write productively when it’s been so long since my last memoir writing session, so one of my goals for this year is to find a way to work on it every week, regardless of my other projects. I believe it can be done, but I have to be better about the mantra in which I so strongly believe - BUTT IN CHAIR.

WOW: Thanks so much for chatting with us today, Shannon! Before you go, do you have any tips for our readers who may be thinking about entering writing contests?

Shannon: Not to sound to much like a Nike commercial, but just do it! Particularly with WOW!, each submission can be valuable because you have the opportunity to get priceless feedback, regardless of whether or not you receive an award. By the time I sold my picture book, I had re-written it more than 50 times based on feedback from my incredible critique partners and agents/editors who had rejected me. I never expected to win this contest - but I most certainly would not have, had I not entered. I guess, however, that my bottom-line checklist for every contest looks a bit like this:
* Read other entries so you understand what’s expected.
* Follow submission/formatting guidelines.
* Know your audience (research the judges).
* Revise revise revise, based on peer feedback, prior to submission.
* Write about the things you know and love. If you’re passionate when you write, your readers will feel it!

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Friday Speak Out!: Writing at 4 a.m. Will Change Your Life

Friday, October 13, 2017
by Amber Roshay

My husband squeezes my hand. I slowly start to awaken. We slip out of bed, past our sleeping nine-month-old daughter, into the living room. It’s 4 am. The coffee, on a timer, percolates, filling the room with a warm vanilla flavor.

I splash some almond milk in a cup and the contents of a packet of stevia. We wait for the coffee to be ready. We haven’t spoken.

Once the coffee is ready, we clutch our mugs and head over to our computers. I turn on my laptop. “What are you going to write about today?” asks my husband.

As a mother of two under two finding time to write is hard; long gone are the lazy mornings staring at the computer screen, in between episodes of Game of Thrones. When you have diaper changes, nap coordination, and general exhaustion to combat, you don’t have time to procrastinate. Each second counts. So, when I found out I was pregnant again, I thought my writing days were over. But, I was wrong.

My husband gave me the answer. After our second child was born, he decided to get up at 4 a.m. to study. He was changing careers and needed the extra time to read. To get enough sleep to rise by 4 am, he needed to go to bed early. One day I got up with him.

Some days I’m completely uninspired and have nothing to say; other days I feel anxious because I know how limited my time is and the kids will be awake by 6 am. But, regardless of how I feel, I write. For two hours every day, I spend time on my craft.

I’ve never had consistent writing schedule before. I’ve always been one of those writers who live off of inspiration. But I don’t have time to be inspired. At 6 am my kids will wiggle awake and make their demands known. I found that if I start my day, doing something completely for me, I’m better able to enjoy my time with them.

The best part is that since I’ve kept to a writing schedule, I’ve reconnected with my husband. For two hours, we are together, without our children, doing what we love. Not to mention, there are fewer distractions, since no-one else is up at that time, and you have to be quiet in order to not to wake the kids.

So, you might think it’s crazy to get up at 4 a.m. for anything, but if you try it, I think you’ll start to see how much writing you really can get done.

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Amber Roshay is a freelance writer, instructor, and proud mom. She has an MFA in Creative Writing and teaches English as a Second Language at the University of California San Diego. Her work has been featured in Parent.co and forthcoming in The Write Life and You and Me Magazine. She’s the co-founder of Pen and Parent, the place for people who write while parenting. When she’s not writing or mothering, hopefully, she’s sleeping 
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Friday Speak Out!: Taking Time to Write

Friday, August 11, 2017
by Amanda Crofutt

Balancing writing and my family has been something that I have struggled with since my first child. I now have three kids and two step kids. I think with time and practice it gets easier, but it is definitely something that is learned. I have written since I was a young teenager, writing was always an outlet for me. I am sure it is that way for many of us, but as I got older I discovered that I wanted to also inform people. I didn’t just want to put my emotions out there. Then at nineteen I had my first child, and I thought I would have to give it up. I loved him with all my heart, but at the same time I was a single parent struggling some days to find time to shower yet alone to write a quality essay of any length for anything, or anyone. As he got a little older I realized that as much as I loved my child I had left everything I had once loved behind for him. I had to start making time for me again. I had this Epiphany around the time he was almost a year old. I met my now husband around the same time, there is a lot that he helped me through but that is something that can be talked about some other time.

I realized that I needed to dedicate an hour to me a day, that was my magic number, as I call it anyway. The amount of time I spent doing something solely for me that made me feel good and happy and whole. I started by dedicating that time to writing, spending time at a lake, walking. As I did I realized what had been missing for a year was me, and my writing. I don’t know about most of you, but writing is how I make sense of the world around me. So to lose that most sacred part of me was almost like someone had cut out a large chunk of my heart. When I had my second child two years later I did not let up off of having one hour a day to myself, and now that I have five kids I still have one hour a day to do what I please, to write, to experience, to live life without thinking of being mom first and writer second.

The point of all of this is, find your magic number. It may be different than mine. It took me almost three weeks to figure out that it was an hour every day for me. It may be two hours every day for you. It may be an hour every other day. Find it, and then hold yourself to it until it is second nature. Take that time to take a walk so you can hear the birds, finish another chapter in your book. Maybe you just need an hour binge-watching your favorite show. We all get inspiration from different places, but find yours, take it and turn into something. You can’t do that without dedicated time to write. Here’s to your next piece.

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My name is Amanda, I have been a writer since my early teen years. Now I am a mom of five with a full time job. I have been married for three years to a veteran, which comes with its own ups and downs. I have recently decided to take to publishing my work. Visit: https://amandacrofutt.wordpress.com/  

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