Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts

Active and Fallow Periods in Writing

Wednesday, May 24, 2023
It’s mid-May in New England, and nature is delighting us Northern folk with flowering trees and shrubs, grass that is quickly greening, warm breezes, and signs of life in our flower gardens. 

With hours more sunlight in the mornings (and evenings) now, I wake each morning by 6:15 and throw on a baseball hat to get a 45-minute walk in around my neighborhood before starting my work day. The neighborhood streets are especially beautiful this time of year, with an abundance of trees putting on their best springtime frocks: pink crabapples, white dogwoods, magnolias in a beautiful blush shade. Not to be left behind, shrubs demand equal admiration: fragrant lilac bushes, cheery yellow forsythia, azaleas covered in lavender, red, pink, and white blooms, and rhododendrons getting ready to burst in a few weeks. 

On my return from my morning walk, I always take a few minutes and step into flower beds that ring my house, eagerly inspecting them. I see shoots pushing up from the earth and literally gaining an inch each day. I’ve got seven flower beds, each one a decent size. Though the beds demand a lot of attention during summer with weeding and pruning, it’s the spring that is the busiest as I rake away winter mulch blankets, fertilize, prune browned remains from the previous autumn, and haul out garden statues from winter storage. The prep required even before the beds can be freshly mulched for a new season is easily two full weekends of manual work. 

As novelist and poet Rudyard Kipling noted: “Gardens are not made by singing, ‘Oh, how beautiful,’ and sitting in the shade.”
Image: Ann Kathryn Kelly

Ahh … but how well worth it, it is. By the second week in June, I’m fully enjoying the fruits of my labor, with overflowing flowers everywhere I turn. Anyone who gardens—flower or veggie—knows it’s a labor of love, and not for those who don’t want to get their hands dirty or wake with the occasional sore back and hamstrings. (This last point especially kicks in, with each passing year. Hello, fifties!) 

In the seven years I’ve been doing this—I averaged designing one new bed each year—I’ve invested hundreds of hours (and dollars) planning layouts, purchasing perennials and annuals, planting them, re-planting many in new spots when I found that a certain plant was not thriving and needed more sun or more shade, and of course weeding, pruning, weeding, pruning, dividing, replanting, pruning, weeding—ad infinitum. 

Can I get an amen on Mr. Kipling's quote? 

Know what else is a labor of love that requires as much patience as gardening to see the fruits of our labor? Writing. Instant gratification? Good luck with that. 

Neither cultivating mature gardens nor sitting down to write produces immediate and picture-perfect results. Whether it’s a prized perennial we’re tending, or an essay, fiction piece, or poem we’re trying to bring to life, both art forms demand patience. Both demand hours of love and attention. Both require learning from our mistakes and not being afraid to start over, to achieve the desired result. 

Plants have active growing seasons, but require times of dormancy. Writing, too, goes through active and fallow periods.
Image: Ann Kathryn Kelly

It’s the rest between bursts of energy that makes a garden—and a writing practice—sustainable. That’s the reminder I’m repeating to myself. 

What does this mean for my writing? Historically, I write a lot less during the summer. Because gardening and writing both require so much energy, I prefer to give my full attention to one pursuit, in order to do it well. Each has its season. As winter descends, I call up snapshots of my gardens in their glory (in my mind and on my phone) to help germinate new writing. 

What do you do, to help your writing germinate? Do you have a hobby that brings out the wonder and beauty in your writing practice? I’d love to hear about it in the comments! 

Ann Kathryn Kelly writes from New Hampshire’s Seacoast region. https://annkkelly.com
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Patiently Impatient

Wednesday, January 22, 2020
Did you ever notice patient people are patient with others and incredibly impatient with themselves? I recently forgot to post an article I was assigned and I beat myself up for days. My goal was to journal every day and I missed the boat completely several days already this year (keep in mind it's only January 21st). I can easily forgive others when something slips through the cracks, I'm quick to step up and help where I can, I don't mind waiting longer than usual in line at the coffee shop, and yet you should hear the awful self-talk that happens when I have to be patient with myself. As part of my 2020 goals, I am attempting to be as patient with myself as I am with others. I want to be as laid back with Crystal as I am with my children. I'm not lowering the bar, I'm just being kinder and gentler. Case in point, we are done having children and I'm getting healthier. I am a third of the way to my goal weight and it's been a month and the scale isn't moving. There's a huge part of me - I need to be patient with myself, but I'm struggling.

Part of getting healthier physically is making time for reading, writing, and book reviews. Why is it I can devour a book but can't sit patiently at the computer long enough to finish the book review? Why am I not getting as far as I want on my own writing? Why can't I put all these thoughts down on paper? Some days I feel I'm being too patient with myself and others I just want to see forward progress and I'm as impatient as a hungry toddler looking for the strawberries in the fridge.

Are you as patient with yourself as you are with others? Are you impatient with others and patient with yourself? Do you just want to skip to the end of the story to find out what happens, or are you happy to enjoy the ride? How have you trained yourself to be just the right amount of patient and impatient (a happy medium as Mama used to say)?

What's standing in your way this year and beyond? What might help? Is it a writing course? Is it finding a great new author? Maybe it's developing an author website?

Share your thoughts and ideas with us in the comments - we love hearing from YOU!

No rush....I'm patient...

xoxox
~Crystal



Crystal is the office manager, council secretary, financial secretary, and musician at her church, birth mother, Auntie, babywearing mama, business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Press Corp teammate for the DairyGirl Network, Unicorn Mom Ambassador, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Wisconsin with her husband and their five youngest children, two dogs, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, horses Darlin' and Joker, and over 250 Holsteins.

You can find Crystal milking cows, riding horses, and riding unicorns (not at the same time), taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books here, and at her personal blog - Crystal is dedicated to turning life's lemons into lemonade and she has never (not once) been accused of being normal!
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