WOW! Women On Writing Blog: letter to a friend

Saturday, July 02, 2016

Have you ever written a letter like this in your journal? In your head? This is a letter I would like to write, but I don't think I'd ever send it. What do you think? How do you mold your relationships? Are you a friend or an enabler?

Dear Friend,

I love that you look up to me so much that instead of googling something you pick up the phone and ask me for the answer. (Did you know, most of the time I have to google it too?)

I enjoy talking to you about what kind of poop is normal or how often your baby should breastfeed. (Do you remember me giving you the kellymom.com website? I was hoping you'd start looking that stuff up for yourself.)

I'm glad you love my bread recipe enough to call me every time you make it. (I posted the recipes on my blog so you can find them and print them or whatever you want to do for yourself, remember me sending you the link TWICE?)

I work from home and answer my phone each time it rings, respond promptly to text messages and emails, and my door is always open. Well...at least all of those things WERE true.

If I really am comprised of the 5 people I spend most of my time with, I feel I need to be cautious with my time. You should be cautious with yours too. I need to guard myself and what I need is more light, life, and laughter in my world. I need more people who say "Crystal, how are you today?" instead of "Hey Crystal, I need _______ today". I'm sure you'll agree, I deserve that, and so do you!

I love doing these things. I love being your person. I love YOU! The problem right now, is all this caring for you has left me falling behind and feeling empty. I'm going to set some boundaries in hopes our relationship will become stronger. I've hopefully given you the tools you need to do things on your own - I have confidence in you!

I can't wait to see where our relationship takes us next and I'm hoping you'll drop by soon with a smile and we can have an uplifting chat!

Love,
Crystal

Please leave your comments below - let us know if you've ever had to take action to help stay focused? Do you have people in your life who you love but feel the need to distance yourself from? How have these relationships impacted your writing career? Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions?

Crystal is a church musician, babywearing mama (aka crunchy mama), business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger, Blog Tour Manager with WOW! Women on Writing, Publicist with Dream of Things Publishing, as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Manitowoc County, Wisconsin with her husband, four young children (Carmen 9, Andre 7, Breccan 2, and Delphine 1), two dogs, two rabbits, four little piggies, a handful of cats and kittens, and over 230 Holsteins. In the picture on the left, she is visiting with her neighbors who are sheep farmers - you can see 3 of her littles as well as she and her handsome husband. Thanks to her Lillebaby carrier, she is able to have lots of fun!

In addition to playing in the hay and petting bottle lambs, you can find Crystal riding unicorns, taking the ordinary and giving it a little extra (making it extraordinary), blogging and reviewing books, baby carriers, cloth diapers, and all sorts of other stuff at:http://bringonlemons.blogspot.com/ and http://muffin.wow-womenonwriting.com/