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Interview with Amy DeFlavis, Third Place Winner in the Q3 2025 Creative Nonfiction Contest

Sunday, August 17, 2025

 


Amy DeFlavis resides and writes in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. Her short stories, flash fiction, and creative nonfiction essays have earned placements in Writers Digest, NYC Midnight, Tadpole Press, and WOW Women on Writing competitions. Outside her corporate day job, she spends her time editing her debut romantic suspense novel and refining her author website. Her moments of respite are found in renovating her historic home, planning adventures to various corners of the world, and manifesting the life of her dreams.

If you haven't already, please take a few minutes and read "Red, White, and Blueland", then return here for an interview with the author!

 ----------Interview by Renee Roberson 

WOW: Welcome back Amy, and congratulations! We're excited to learn more about you and your process for writing and creating thought-provoking essays. Writing about our personal experiences can be therapeutic, but sometimes it’s difficult to arrange our thoughts into a cohesive essay form. Do you have any tips for writers just starting out in creative nonfiction? 

Amy: I think most writers, whether conscious of it or not, pull from the well of their own experiences. We’re shaped by the world around us and the events that mark our lives. Personally, I never set out to write full-on creative nonfiction, so I’m not sure about tips. Being a romance writer, I’d always preferred immersing myself in a world where I knew a happy ending was guaranteed. But as we all know, real life holds no such promise. And the more I tried to incorporate my experiences through the lives of my fictional characters, the more I realized it wasn’t resonating with me any longer the way it had before. It felt hollow and two-dimensional. Somehow, not genuine. So, I made the decision to drop the pretense and dive into the deep end of creative nonfiction. I thought it was going to be scary to pull back the curtain all the way, but it turned out to be the thing that opened the floodgates to deeper, more powerful writing for me. I began to keep a notebook, jotting down any experience, brief interaction, or conversation that struck me for whatever reason. Then I dug into the memories of things I’d pushed aside over the years—the fear that comes with getting older, my father's death, friendships I’d lost, people I’d met during my travels, and the broken hearts scattered along the way. I pulled all those feelings together and then incorporated them into a specific event or scenario in my daily life. So, I would say if you’re just starting out, make notes of the things that happen to you during the day. It could be a brief interaction or passing someone on the street. Or maybe a song that takes you back to a certain place and time. Were you happy, sad, angry? Sit with those emotions. Write about them under the cover of a fictional character if you have to. And then dissect that character until it’s stripped down to its raw components. You might be amazed that underneath all of it, it’s you. At least I was. 

WOW: That's solid advice! As writers, I believe first and foremost, we are observers. What happens when we mix those daily observations with our memories and emotions is magical. The last line of “Red, White, and Blueland” is so powerful and poignant. Writing the final sentence in any short story or essay can be intimidating. Did you struggle at all with figuring out how to wrap up this piece in a way that would resonate with the reader? 

Amy: I’ve always been more of a panster than a plotter, so it’s rare for me to know how I will close out a piece. This one was no different. I just know that for everything I write, I want to do my best to make it stay with the reader. I love it when art/movies/books make me think about them for days after the movie credits roll or I turn that last page of the book. I want my readers to feel that. I want them to take whatever they can from my work and come to their own conclusions about what it means to them or how it makes them feel. For this one, when I thought about that day in New York, the one thing that kept coming back to me was how cold my feet were. It was bitter, and the wind made standing outside almost unbearable. I even considered abandoning the tour. When I’d gotten to the end of the piece, I knew I had to circle back to my cold feet because, through everything I heard and saw, in the back of my mind was the constant throbbing. My feet were the main character that day—a nagging, inconvenient reminder of how uncomfortable I was with so many things in the world. 

WOW: You have to love the double meaning there and I applaud you bringing that physical and emotional discomfort through in your piece. Like you mentioned above, this winning essay revolves around an excursion you took to New York City as a form of distraction, and you’ve also discussed other trips in other essays. We’d love to hear about some of your favorite journeys! 

Amy: I love learning about other cultures and meeting new people. London has quickly become one of my favorite places. I visited last month and wish I could have stayed longer. I have a soft spot for Italy and hope to retire there someday. Australia and Spain had the best food. The most wonderful thing to come from my writing journey, aside from the creative outlet it provides, is that I’ve made friends all over the world through my various virtual writing groups. After only knowing these supportive, creative, wonderful souls online, it’s been amazing to actually meet them in person when I travel. The world has become so much smaller through the power of the internet. The days of writing letters to a pen pal from middle school French class seem so long ago. Now, I can get on a plane and meet the people I’ve only known through a screen for years, but who’ve had as much of an impact on my life (if not more so) than people I see every day. And with the recent passing of my nineteen-year-old dog, I feel like I’m on the precipice of some pretty cool adventures. I’ll miss her, but Japan has been calling to me in my dreams for a little while, and I’m looking forward to seeing where the wind blows me next. 

WOW: What amazing journeys you've had! I just read One Italian Summer by Rebecca Serle and truly felt like I was transported to Positano. I can't wait to visit there and try the food and wine! To many of us, our writing spaces are sacred and help us to be our most productive. Living in a historic home, we’d love to hear about any special areas you’ve created for your writing. 

Amy: I’ve tried a few different places in my home to write. I’ve tried music, having plants around, and sitting outside on my patio. But at the end of the day, I always seem to end up sitting on my couch with my laptop on my knees. As much as I want to make some kind of zen space for writing, this old couch seems to hide all my creative secrets under its cushions. 

WOW: Ha! I love that. You’ve experienced success in writing competitions and are working on a novel when you’re not at your full-time job. Are there any other dream creative projects on your list to tackle? 

Amy: Right now, I think I need to dust off my manuscript and dive back in. Halfway through the second draft, I lost steam. I turned to writing competitions to keep the creative juices flowing so I wouldn’t become stagnant. But I also found that it served a greater purpose. Pouring my energies into the Flash Fiction and Creative Non-Fiction pieces improved my writing more than I realized. They took me to greater depths with my creativity and helped me understand more fully what kind of writer I want to be moving forward. I have a renewed passion for my novel and am looking at it with fresh eyes and a new perspective. I look forward to completing the edits to produce a more polished and tightly written novel, so I can finally start the query process.

WOW: You've got this, Amy! Looking forward to reading more from you in the future. 
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Interview with Amy DeFlavis, Runner Up in the WOW! Q4 2024 Creative Nonfiction Contest

Sunday, December 22, 2024

 


Amy DeFlavis resides and writes in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. Her short stories, flash fiction, and creative nonfiction essays have earned placements in Writers Digest, NYC Midnight, and WOW Women on Writing competitions.Outside her corporate day job, she spends her time editing her debut romantic suspense novel and refining her author website. Her moments of respite are found in renovating her historic home, planning adventures to various corners of the world, and manifesting the life of her dreams. 

----------Interview by Renee Roberson

WOW: I loved reading your essay, "Neglected Gardens and Other Untended Things," about the discovery of a mother fox and her brood living in your backyard. There are so many elements woven throughout, from your relationship with your beloved dog, to the still and quiet of the moment, to the realization that you and the fox could be one and the same. What was the process of writing and revising this piece like for you? 

Amy: From the moment I saw the mother fox standing on top of my shed, I knew I'd write a story about her. My biggest challenge was keeping within the word count because I had so much to say. But I had a connection with her that felt more than coincidental, and she proceeded to tell me her story without much fanfare or frivolity. I have a tendency to be wordy, but she got straight to the point, which helped me keep the revisions to a minimum. I've lived in my home for a little over twenty years and this past spring was the first time the foxes showed up. Their arrival took me by complete surprise, and I looked forward to watching their antics every day. When I started posting videos of them on Facebook, my friends and neighbors were as excited as I was, and they would stop by for watch parties. It became a fun pastime that brought so many people together for a brief and magical moment in time. I knew there was a reason for it and that I needed to write about it. 

WOW: What is your favorite line from this essay and why? 

Amy: I think my favorite line is about my relationship with my dog. "It's like our own Grey Gardens, and we're the human/canine versions of Big and Little Edie--eccentric, annoying, and set in our ways." My dog is almost 19 years old. I got her only a few years after I moved into my home. In a lot of ways, we've grown up together. We've seen and put up with each other at our worst and our best, and like the Edie's, we find it difficult to function without each other. I often tell her it's okay if she wants to "go to the light," and I find myself saying it more and more recently. I think it's time. She doesn't agree. So we continue our dance. 

WOW: Your bio mentions you are working on a romantic suspense novel. What do you enjoy about writing in that genre? 

Amy: I've always loved romance. Like a lot of Gen X girls, I grew up reading Kathleen E. Woodiwiss, Johanna Lindsey, Julie Garwood, and Jude Deveraux. I liked the fantasy of perfect love, but I also had a fascination with horror, mystery, and suspense novels. To me, romantic suspense is the best of both worlds-- combine the love story of two people who are fighting against the odds, the killer, or the outside forces, and I'm hooked. I have no idea if I've pulled it off successfully, but I guess I'll find out once my Beta readers get back to me. 

WOW: Having experienced success in numerous writing contests, what do you think is the key to crafting a competitive essay or short story? 

Amy: I've been genuinely surprised at the success I have been having lately with short stories and essays. I can only speak for myself, but the key for me is to show the emotions of my characters and express them in a way that people feel they can connect with. It seems to be resonating with others because I get a lot of feedback from people who tell me they felt like they were actually in the story as they were reading it. I think that's the highest compliment I could ever get because I want people to feel things when they read my words, and I've worked so hard on showing vs telling. 

WOW: Do you have any fun or interesting stories about renovating your historic home? We’d love to hear them! 

Amy: Oh, gosh, I don't know about fun or interesting. As a single woman trying to do it all on my own, it's been more like nightmares! Ha ha! But I'm so happy I landed where I did all those years ago and took a chance. My father was a contractor, and while he paid for two weddings for my sisters, I told him it might be a better investment of his time and money if he helped me fix up an old house instead. He took me up on it. I must say, it was nice not having to run ideas past anyone. Everything I picked out for this place was all me. I didn't have to take anyone else's opinion into consideration when picking out tile, flooring, or furniture. But then again, I have only myself to blame if I don't like something now!
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Interview with Amy DeFlavis, Runner Up in the WOW! Q2 2024 Creative Nonfiction Essay Contest

Sunday, May 26, 2024

Congratulations to Amy DeFlavis of Bucks County, Pennsylvania for her award-winning story, "Being Marketing," and to all of the other contestants and winners of the WOW! Women on Writing Quarter 2 2024 Essay Contest!

Today, I'm excited to interview Amy DeFlavis about her award-winning essay.

Amy Deflavis
Amy’s Bio: Amy DeFlavis resides and writes in a charming, bucolic town in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. Her short stories and flash fiction have earned placements on Women on Writing’s extensive list and secured spots in the top twenty-five of the Writers Digest annual competition. 

Outside her corporate day job, she dedicates her time to editing her debut romance novel, refining her author website, and meticulously crafting query letters. Her moments of respite are found in renovating her historic home, planning adventures to various corners of the world, and mastering manifestation techniques to create the life of her dreams. 

Before we get to our interview, make sure you check out her essay, "Being Marketing," first. Then come on back to learn more about Amy and her writing!

Interview by Crystal J. Casavant-Otto

WOW: Welcome, Amy. Thank you for writing such a riveting, important, and humorous essay! What is the take away you'd like readers to gain from "Being Marketing"? 

Amy: This one was special to me. As a woman who has worked in corporate America for the past thirty years, I've had my share of experiences. The two men at the beginning of the essay are a culmination of people I've dealt with rather than anyone in particular. Sometimes, I felt it was difficult to have my voice heard, and I learned that it was better just to keep my mouth shut altogether in some cases. I'm also small in stature (4'11"), which led me to try to prove myself in order to be taken seriously in an industry predominantly run by men. I'm happy to say all of my current coworkers are lovely people who value me and the work I do. 

But as a Gen X-er, I think some of us stayed in situations or jobs or felt stuck in places because we were afraid. At least I did. I was too afraid to take a chance on something else that might have led me down a different, more creative path in life. I was too worried about paying my mortgage, or failure, or just not having anything to fall back on. Looking back, I see where I could have taken more risks, and I wish I had. I wish I'd let myself fall in love more, or left the safety of my hometown, or walked away from people who didn't value me. I know now that I would have been just fine, and I'm trying not to beat myself up too much for taking this long to realize it. Becoming an author in mid-life and traveling around the globe, sometimes solo, made me realize that the only person who's going to get me out of the mundane, uninspiring situations, bad relationships, or toxic friendships is me. No one is coming to save me, and I don't want to end up like Sandy in my story. 

So, the takeaway for readers? Grab life when you can. It doesn't matter how old you are, and it's never too late. But most importantly, remember that there's always going to be someone who is still afraid, and they'll want you to be too. It gives them comfort and makes them feel not so alone. They'll want you to play it safe and not put your toe in the water because what lurks underneath is unknown. Don't listen to those people. 

WOW: Grab life when you can—I love that! And you're right, it's never too late. What advice would you give to others (specifically female authors) when it comes to self-care? 

Amy: This one was huge for me, and I learned it the hard way. When I wrote the first and second drafts of my novel, I was working my full-time corporate job and dealing with a parent with dementia, as well as living in a world of uncertainty due to all the fears around COVID. Writing became my outlet but quickly escalated into obsession. I would rush home from work (where I had been sitting at a desk all day) and then continue to sit again for hours—on my couch or in bed, sometimes past midnight, to get it all down. I was also trying to squeeze in time to work with my book coach, participate in writing groups, and read a book a week in my genre to keep up. There was so much to learn, and I was impatient for things to move faster. I felt behind and punished myself for not having enough hours in the day to do it all. I neglected my physical health and was tired, sluggish, and very stressed all the time. I found myself crying in the shower or the car because I was at a breaking point. 

So, one day, when I realized I was on the verge of imploding, I forced myself to take a step back. I tried to revisit all the reasons I loved writing and why I wanted to do it in the first place. I knew I needed to learn to relax, and I made a concerted effort to do that. I started running again and setting a timer for myself so that I didn't fall down the rabbit hole for hours on end when I sat down to write. I made time for friends, as well as other things besides just writing. I let myself connect with people more. I traveled and didn't bring my laptop. I started meditating again, going for monthly massages, and basically just connecting with myself again. I also set my novel aside every now and then and started writing some short stories. They helped me shift focus and also improved my writing. 

Now, I feel like I have more balance. I know I couldn't have kept going the way I was before. I would have completely burned out. I think, as women, we often forget how important it is to put ourselves first. I don't have a family, but I can't imagine how hard this concept must be for women who do. I guess I would say to them, do what works for you, no matter how small that thing may be. Getting a manicure or going out in nature for a ten-minute walk. Or just screaming into a pillow. (I did that, too, and it felt surprisingly good.) Whatever you can fit into your schedule, do it. Feed your soul however you can. I go at a steadier and more balanced pace now. There are still bumps in the road where I have writer's block or imposter syndrome, but I try to ride them out and let the feelings pass in their own time. They always do. And I know now that everything will take as long as it takes. It's not a race. The biggest take-away I would give female writers is that you are your biggest asset, and if you're not healthy and happy, your body, your mind, and your writing will suffer. Make sure you make yourself a priority from the beginning because no one else will do it for you. 

WOW: It's so important to find that balance! We have to keep working at it, and it's not a race. I'm glad those shifts helped improve your writing. So, what’s next for you? What are your writing goals for the rest of 2024 and beyond? 

Amy: I've just started the third draft of my romantic suspense. My goal for 2024 is to have it out to Beta readers by the summer and then start pitching agents in the fall. I'm also halfway through my second book, a contemporary romance, and would like to try to finish that first draft by the end of the year. In between, I'm going to keep submitting flash fiction and creative nonfiction to outlets like WOW. I keep saying I'm going to get an author's website up and running, and I think this is the year to try to do that, too. In between massages, of course! 

WOW: Massages, of course! Those are excellent goals, Amy, and I'm thrilled to hear you're writing a romantic suspense! What is your history with writing contests? Tell us what prompted you to submit to this particular contest? What would you like to tell other authors concerning contests and submitting their work? 

Amy: I started submitting to writing contests about two years ago. The results were dismal! I look back at some of those initial works and cringe at how forced they were. I hadn't found my voice yet. But I knew I had stories to tell, and once I started interweaving some of my own experiences into those stories, that's when things really got going. I made WOW's long list with a flash fiction piece and then placed in the Writer's Digest competition. I was shocked. I couldn't believe it. I started writing more, and they just poured out of me. That's what led me to write "Being Marketing." I think I wrote it in one night and then tweaked it for about a week before knowing it was ready. It started with one thought. Someone in a job, years ago, patted me on the head. It was a joke, and I didn't take it personally. People were always making fun of my height or leaning an arm on my head or shoulder. But that's what prompted the story. It rose up out of me—all those years of trying to prove myself, and before I knew it, the finished work stared up at me, and I thought, "Yes, this is what I've wanted to say for so long. This is how I feel." 

I try to infuse humor into most of my pieces because I think that makes them relatable. They're funny because we've all been through similar situations. I feel my most free when I'm writing flash fiction, short stories, or creative nonfiction. They all truly feel like a piece of me that I'm putting out into the world. They come to life in my mind and then float down onto the page, seemingly with as little effort as it takes to breathe. It wasn't always that way. I struggled, and my earlier works are a testament to how little I knew myself. But finding my groove has been really liberating, and I look forward to submitting more pieces soon. 

For anyone who wants to try their hand at it, I would say, pull your ideas from your own experiences. That's where the gold is. And also, always pay for the critique! That's really important feedback and will help you. I do that with every piece. One of my earlier works didn't make the long list, but I took the feedback, reworked the story a little bit, and resubmitted it to the next contest. That one placed! Keep going, don't let rejection get you down (it's part of life and something we all have to deal with), and look back at your older works to remind yourself how far you've come. 

WOW: Congratulations on the Writer's Digest competition! You are so great at writing humor. Also, thank you for your kind words about WOW's contests. It's been a pleasure chatting with you today, Amy, and I hope to do it again soon. Good luck on your novel!

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Interviewed by Crystal J. Casavant-Otto who just keeps on keeping on and can be found blogging and sharing on social media hashtag #raisingkidsandcattle #shelovesgodandsheridesgoodhorses #thankfulgratefulblessed 

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