& Book Giveaway Comments Contest!
Ruth J. Hartman was once “normal.” She perceived the world around her as any other person would--until she turned 27. That’s when Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) dug in its claws and refused to let her go. Her world (and her family’s) was turned inside out.
Working as a dental hygienist was difficult enough, but trying to balance her work life with the challenges of OCD was overwhelming. Ruth’s family, friends, and co-workers didn’t understand why she suddenly acted so bizarre. She wanted to help them understand, but she couldn’t. She didn’t understand it herself.
My Life in Mental Chains is moving and tragic, yet in the end, it’s an uplifting story of personal faith and inner strength. Ruth’s insight will be a great comfort to OCD sufferers, their families, and their friends.
Ruth graduated from the Indiana University School of Dentistry with a degree in Science/Dental Hygiene. Her interest in writing, which began in high school, led her to earn her diploma from the Institute of Children’s Literature in “Writing for Children and Teenagers.”
She lives in rural Indiana with her husband and two cats.
Visit her website at www.ruthjhartman.blogspot.com, or contact her at RGHartman@aol.com.
My Life in Mental Chains by Ruth J. Hartman
Published by Pipers’ Ash Ltd., $13.00
Publication Date: November 1, 2008
Non-Fiction, True-Life Story Chapbook
ISBN# 9781906928001
Book Giveaway Comments Contest!
If you received our Events Newsletter, remember, we are holding a contest to win a signed copy of Ruth's book, My Life in Mental Chains, to those that comment. So, grab a cup of coffee, pull up a chair, and enjoy the chat, and share your thoughts, and comments, at the end. We will randomly choose a winner from those who comment. Enjoy!
Interview by Joanne Stacey
WOW: Welcome to WOW!, Ruth. We’re delighted to launch your blog tour for your book, My Life in Mental Chains: My Struggle With Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (Pipers’ Ash, 2008).
I’m fascinated with authors who can write personal memoirs and share very private events with the rest of the world. How long did it take you to write My Life in Mental Chains?
Ruth: I started writing My Life in Mental Chains in July 2008, and it was published by Pipers’ Ash in November 2008. It didn’t take long to write because I didn’t have to do any research for my subject (me!), so it came together quickly. OCD does have one redeeming quality for an author: you become obsessed with writing, and that keeps you working until the book or story is finished.
WOW: You’re right, that was quick! Did writing in your journal, as prescribed by your doctor, help you with your writing? Do you still write in your journal? Is that what helped you get started with your writing?
Ruth: The writing I did for the prescribed journal was, for me, more of a painful reminder of my daily obsessions than a writing exercise. I don’t keep a daily journal; I’m better off now if I don’t analyze what’s happening to me every day. If I have something that’s bothering me, dwelling on the problem only makes it worse. That in itself can push me into an obsessive loop that doesn’t want to let me go. My best course of action is to either ignore it (tell it “I don’t care”), or to use exposure therapy for the thing that frightens me and immerse myself in it quickly and get it over with.
WOW: I know that for me, sometimes I’m afraid to write down what I really think or feel. Do you think honest journaling helps a writer’s growing process?
Ruth: I think for other writing, honest journaling would be a good thing. It can help you figure out what you’re seeing and hearing, really pin down your feelings about the world around you. I would be able to keep a journal in that sense, as long as I don’t get caught in an OCD “web.”
WOW: Thanks for that advice! I can see the honesty in your book, which I really enjoyed reading! You took me into a dark place I didn’t know much about, and I felt like I was taking the journey with you as you described everything that happened in such great detail. Telling millions of people about a very intimate part of your life must be difficult. Can you give us any advice on how to write a personal memoir?
Ruth: My actual diagnosis was in 1990. I was 27. So to write this memoir, I had to dig deep. I made myself think about things I’d tried to forget. My mom said to me, “You had to go through it all over again to write this, didn’t you?” And yes, I pretty much did. The only difference is, now I have the blessing of medication and therapy to help me. At that time, I was just one big raw nerve ending. All the events in the book are true; they all happened to me. Some of the memories are so painful and permanent, they’re seared into my brain. Some of the dialogue is exact, other dialogue comes from the memory of how I felt that day and how someone else was treating me. On those occasions, it may not be word for word, but I can put myself back there, in that room, in that place, and the feelings all come back.
WOW: People who have OCD or know someone with OCD are very lucky to be able to read your story because you not only tell of your experience, but also tell of the support you had from your family. It’s a story that needs to be out there. Was it hard to find a publisher?
Ruth: I got the name for this publisher from the Magazine Markets for Children and Teenagers. Pipers' Ash is a small non-profit publisher, and they only work with a few authors at a time, which is why my book was published so quickly. I had intended to write a fictional story about a teenage girl with OCD. I submitted a 25-word query, as suggested by their guidelines. The reply, however, was that stories such as mine (or any story about abuse, adoption or other personal experiences) are better told in the “True Life Series.” I re-submitted my query to the “True Life Series”, and over time was asked to submit a synopsis, first chapter, then the full manuscript. My original idea for a fictional teen story has not yet been accepted by any publisher.
WOW: It sounds like Pipers’ Ash is a very personable, author-friendly publisher! What was the publishing experience like?
Ruth: Pipers’ Ash is very kind, patient, and tolerant. I never felt pressured. I never felt insignificant or ignorant, although I was ignorant! With the exception of a short story that has been accepted somewhere else (and hasn’t been published yet), this was my first experience working directly with a publisher and going through all the basic steps for submission and publication. I didn’t even know what a synopsis was! I literally had to go to the bookstore and buy a book on the subject.
WOW: (Laughs) Now that your book has been published, it’s all about getting the word out. I’ve heard that self-promotion is a big part of the process. What are you doing to promote your book?
Ruth: I’ve contacted my local newspaper, bookstores and library. The newspaper article should be coming out soon. My books are at the local Hastings Bookstore on consignment, and my local library wants to buy 2 copies of the book later this month. But I think this blog tour, beginning with WOW! will be the best and most exciting promotion of all!
WOW: Well thank you for taking the blog tour! We’re really excited to have you on board, and wish you all the success you deserve! I hope to see your name in print again and again. Is there anything new in the works now?
Ruth: I’m almost finished with a 25,000-word story. I’m a licensed dental hygienist, so this book is about a hygienist who falls in love with her patient. I assured my husband it truly is fiction! (He wasn’t really worried.)
WOW: I’m looking forward to reading your new book--it sounds like another great read! Have you gotten into any other types of writing, such as poetry?
Ruth: My favorite writing is fiction. Especially short, humorous stories. I love writing quick, funny conversation between two people who truly care about each other. I’ve never had a flair for writing poetry though.
WOW: Humor is such a wonderful way to connect with others. It’s so refreshing to have something lighthearted, especially in these tough times. Ruth, it’s been such a pleasure chatting with you today! Thank you for your time and for your insights. Are there any final golden tidbits of advice you’d like to pass on to our readers?
Ruth: In terms of writing, just keep at it. Write at least a little every day. And be observant. One of my favorite activities is to “people watch.” You can learn so much about human relationships by just listening to conversations of those around you. Don’t give up if the first answer from a publisher is “no.” Maybe, as in my case, they can use your story in a different way, or they can use something else you’ve written or could write for them. Rejections are painful. But keep reminding yourself: absolutely every writer gets them. They’re never fun. They’re never easy. But often it takes the process of going through several rejections before you can get to the right publisher for the right submission at the right time.
And in terms of dealing with OCD, I’m sure treatment can take many different forms for as many different people. For me, it’s a combination of therapy and daily, for the rest of my life, medication. Thankfully, my therapy now mainly consists of a once a year appointment with my psychiatrist (when I began treatment, I saw him 3 times a week.) I know a few people who suffer from OCD but won’t seek treatment. My heart aches for them. My advice for anyone who suffers from this painful disorder is to please seek help and get treatment. Your life will be happier, healthier, and more peaceful.
WOW: Thank you for such great words of advice. You’ve given us a lot of wonderful and useful information. We wish you all the best in your writing journey!
Want to join Ruth on her blog tour? Check out these dates and mark your calendar! You can also snag a copy of WOW's Events Calendar HERE. We're always adding new dates that may not be listed, so be sure to check it out.
Blog Tour Dates: Come and join the fun!
JANUARY 26, 2009 Monday
Ruth will be chatting with WOW! Women On Writing at The Muffin. Share your comments! One lucky commenter will win copy of Ruth's book!
http://www.wow-womenonwriting.com/blog.html
JANUARY 27, 2009 Tuesday
Ruth stops by The Mental Fitness Center's blog, Out of Bounds, to talk about the topic, "Symptoms and Treatment for OCD." It sounds like a wonderful and informative discussion.
http://www.thementalfitnesscenter.com/blog
JANUARY 29, 2009 Thursday
Ruth visits Darlene Devoe's blog, Raising Socially Anxious Children, and talks about how even though she wasn't diagnosed with OCD until age 27, looking back now, she recognizes the some of the symptoms in her youth: worry, depression, separation anxiety, and extreme shyness. This sounds like a super informative post. I can't wait to read it and discuss!
http://www.raisingsociallyanxiouschildrenblog.com/
FEBRUARY 3, 2009 Tuesday
Ruth stops by Anne-Marie Nichols' popular blog, A Mama's Rant, to talk about how she discovered she had OCD, and how she managed to cope on a daily basis (at work and at home). Ruth also shares her tips for helping friends and relatives with OCD. Great topics! I'm very interested to learn more and participate in this discussion.
http://www.amamasrant.com
FEBRUARY 4, 2009 Wednesday
Ruth stops by Mary Jo Campbell's blog, Writer Inspired, for an exclusive author interview! Join the discussion as they talk about the craft of writing, publishing, and more!
http://writerinspired.wordpress.com
FEBRUARY 9, 2009 Monday
Ruth stops by Sher's blog, OCD-Chick: Wiping the Crazy Off My Face, to talk about living with severe OCD. This post is not to miss! Get an inside look and join the discussion.
http://www.ocd-chick.blogspot.com/
FEBRUARY 11, 2009 Wednesday
Ruth will be stopping by Whole Latte Life to talk about how overcoming any obstacle can lead to living a choice life. Joanne's blog is very inspiring and the discussions are lively. Grab a cup of coffee and join the conversation!
http://joannedemaio.blogspot.com/
FEBRUARY 12, 2009 Thursday
Ruth stops by Deena's bookshelf to talk about the signals and treatment for OCD. Ruth lists what symptoms she has, her treatment for them, and some other OCD signals that people experience. Sounds informative! I'm looking forward to this post!
http://deenasbooks.blogspot.com
FEBRUARY 17, 2009 Tuesday
Ruth visits Carolyn Howard-Johnson's blog, The New Book Review, and shares an exclusive review of her book written by WOW! team member, Joanne Stacey. Don't you just love book reviews? I do!
http://www.thenewbookreview.blogspot.com/
FEBRUARY 18, 2009 Wednesday
Ruth stops by Donna Volkenannt's blog, Donna's Book Pub, to chat about working with her book publisher, Pipers' Ash. I always find it interesting to learn about new publishers.
http://donnasbookpub.blogspot.com/
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Hello, everyone!
ReplyDeleteI'll be checking in to this post throughout the day to check comments and answer any questions you may have.
Thanks for your interest!
Ruth
Ruth,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing today. I have a question. How do you decide which events to include in a memoir and which events to leave out. So many things happen to us EVERY DAY, so what drives your decisions?
Thanks!
Margo
Hi Margo,
ReplyDeleteFor this memoir, I had to narrow down the events that had to do with OCD. I tried to include my feelings at that time, and also how other people's words and actions affected me.
Memoirs can be about so many different things. Using a filter for the focus of your particular subject would be the best route to take.
As I wrote this, I ended up scrapping a lot of material. Once I read it, it didn't really seem important to this particular story.
Thanks for the question!
Ruth
This sounds like a really interesting read. I don't suffer from OCD, but I know several people who are borderline. Thanks for sharing your story. I'll have to check for this book if I don't happen to be the winner.
ReplyDeleteThanks!
RebekahC
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Hi, I feel for you. My son is OCD and won't get treatment. It hurts to watch him. Thank you for talking about this.
ReplyDeleteMy ex-husband suffers with OCD. We were married for 16 years (not the reason for the divorce). His did not seem too bad but it was still painful watching him go through it. He still will not recieve treatment though. Thank you for sharing your experiences and I cannot wait to pick the book up and read more.
ReplyDeleteAngela from angstorycorner
Hello Ruth. Congratulations on publishing your story. It's inspiring to see someone who faces a personal struggle turn it into an opportunity to help others. Best wishes and I'll pick up your book! -Loren Christie
ReplyDeleteI was never officially diagnosed with OCD, but a lot of my behaviors when I was in my 20s and 30s (specific placement of things on tabletops in my house, door lock checking, hand washing, categorizing and label alignment in pantry and 'fridge, alphabetized everything, spreadsheets and cataloging, and so much more) suggested that I was at least borderline.
ReplyDeleteBut in the last 6 years, I just haven't been able to keep up with my "orderly" life around my husband and teen son, so although untidiness sounds like constant white noise in the back of my head, I don't feel the same compulsion I once did to do something about it.
Ruth, I'm glad you found a way out of your OCD darkness. I'm sure your book will be a great help to many people out there who are suffering. I look forward to reading about your journey!
Best of luck in your promotional efforts!
Hugs,
Annette
Rebekah.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your interst in the book. I hope it will help your friends/family members who have OCD. It's because of caring people like you, that those of us who suffer are helped.
Thanks!
Ruth
Hi JoAnn,
ReplyDeleteI feel for your son. I understand the pain he's going through all too well. And you are in the same pain watching him, that my family was in with me.
Take care,
Ruth
Hi Ang,
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about your ex-husband. No matter how slight or severe, OCD takes its toll on the person who suffers with it, and those around them.
Ruth
Loren,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words. I appreciate your support!
Ruth
Annette,
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad to hear your OCD has improved over time. That's wonderful! Thank you very much for your kind words of support.
Ruth
Ruth, You've taken quite a journey, from ocd to memoir, and are to be commended for turning it into a positive outcome! Best wishes on your blog tour, I'm looking forward to hosting you next month!
ReplyDeleteJoanne,
ReplyDeleteI'm really looking forward to being on your blog, as well! Ealier today, I had the privilege of handing a copy of my book to my psychiatrist. He was moved. So was I. He and I went through so much together. It was the best way I could think of to thank him.
Ruth
Hi Ruth,
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting to see how many people have had an experience with either a loved one or a friend with OCD. I was talking to my hubby last night and he told me about one of his friends with OCD as well.
I'm so glad you're sharing your experience with others. We don't often get to read a memoir that looks inside OCD! I commend you for writing this book and opening up the dialogue. It's an important topic, and you're so honest. That's one of the things I love about you.
Big hugs, and congrats on your launch!
Ang
Thanks Ang! And thanks to everyone who worked on this blog tour. You guys are the greatest! I've really enjoyed today!
ReplyDeleteRuth
Congratulations Ruth!! Good luck with your blog tour and promotion of your important book!
ReplyDeleteWe are all proud of you!
~Sofi
Hi Sofi!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your support. It really helps to know your friends are supporting you!
Ruth
Hi Alison,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your interest in my book, and future writing. I appreciate it!
Ruth
Oh, Ruth, I'm sorry to be so late! But I had to let you know I'll be following your blog tour. And that I think you are one courageous woman to share your story! Um, I'll save my question for another stop on the blog tour (and I promise I'll check in before 10:30 at night :-)
ReplyDeleteRuth~ Life is hard enough having to cope with the day to day things that come along...then to add your OCD on top of it. You reached inside and came out right where you needed to be. I don't know you, but I'm proud of you and what you are doing for others.
ReplyDeleteMay your blessings flow.
Robin
Hi Cathy!
ReplyDeleteThanks for following the tour!
Ruth
Robin,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your sweet, kind words. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know!
Ruth
Hi Ladies,
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your comments! We've officially picked a winner of Ruth Hartman's book.
Drum roll... and the winner is Jo Ann Hernandez!
Congrats Jo Ann! I'm sure you'll love Ruth's book. :o)
Cheers!
Ang
Congratulations, Jo Ann! If you'd like to e-mail me at rghartman@aol.com with your address, I'll send you the book!
ReplyDeleteRuth
Thank you, Ruth, for telling your story. So many will benefit from your honesty.
ReplyDeleteHi Michelle,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your support. It was a hard book to write, but it really helps to know it may help someone someday.
Take care!
Ruth