Thursday, July 04, 2013
Becoming a Little More Independent and Free
Merriam-Webster’s definition of independence was not particularly helpful as it simply states that the definition of independence is the quality or state of being independent. We kept reading and the examples were much more helpful than the definition itself. The one we like best was:
• She asserted her independence from her parents by getting her own apartment.
The thesaurus gave us words to discuss:
We set both books aside and chatted for a little while about how even small children can have independence. The children gave examples of riding a bicycle without training wheels, pouring your own milk, climbing to the top of the water slide and coming down alone, reading a book alone in your room instead of depending on a grown-up to read to you. The conversation was fantastic and though I explained a bit about the lives that were lost and the fire-works to remind us of the gun and cannon fire, the conversation was pleasant. We didn’t look to blame a particular group and we stayed out of the politics that often accompany talk of war and conflict.
After the children ran out to play I had time to reflect. The antonyms were what stuck with me:
I claim to be an independent woman, and yet I cannot tell you how often I feel inadequate. I feel most inadequate in my writing and my parenting. Those thoughts creep in as I ask myself “who would want to read about that anyway?” or “Why did you take the children to McDonalds instead of making a healthy meal?” and then I start comparing my writings or my parenting with the likes of others and we all know where that type of thinking can lead.
Whether you are a writer, reader, or mother shouldn’t matter. It certainly doesn’t matter where you live. Today is a fabulous day to decide to take action on being independent. What can you do in your life to be free of those negative thoughts? How can you concentrate more on your strengths that on your short comings? How can you keep that momentum going and be more determined to achieve your goals?
"Everything that is really great and inspiring is created by the individual who can labor in freedom." ~Albert Einstein
Crystal J. Casavant-Otto is a church musician, business owner, active journaler, writer and blogger as well as a dairy farmer. She lives in Reedsville, Wisconsin with her husband, two young children (Carmen 6 and Andre 5), three dogs,two rabbits, four little piggies, and over 200 Holsteins. Crystal and her husband, Mark are expecting another son at the end of September.