by Elizabeth Flora Ross
A writer I follow on Twitter recently posed the question, "Do you set a time limit on your writing?" That gave me a very good laugh. Time limit? My issue is finding time! I continually strive for balance between my passion for writing and my role as a mom. The latter comes first, and I fit the former in the best I can.
I am not alone. Very few writers actually write full time. Many have "day" jobs and other responsibilities. They struggle to find time to devote to their craft. In fact, most people find it challenging at best to pursue their interests. Here are some strategies to help you feed your passion:
• Carve out time. For me, my daughter is my priority. I am a stay-at-home mom and care for her full time. I'm also a wife, and I can't neglect my relationship. At the same time, writing provides an essential creative outlet I need. So I strive to dedicate one hour a day to it.
• Set goals. Goals push you and give you something to work toward. But they have to be attainable or you will lose your motivation. You need to have realistic expectations. Sometimes you may be working against external deadlines. Make sure whenever you have the ability to influence deadlines, you do so. It helps no one if you agree to something you have no hope of achieving.
• Utilize tools. I take advantage of the latest software to schedule things like blog postings, Facebook updates and tweets. That way I don't have to be tied to my computer at specific times.
• Capture your ideas. Ideas aren't just going to come to you during your dedicated time. They can pop up at the most inopportune moments. You need to be able to capture ideas so you can incorporate them when the timing is right. I use the Voice Memo feature on my iPhone.
• Celebrate progress and accept setbacks. You finished a chapter? Raise a glass. Received another rejection? Get busy and send out more query letters. You are going to have good days and bad days. Learn to make the most of both.
• Be flexible. Events beyond your control can get in the way of your writing. You have to be prepared for that and not let it get you down. As I said, I strive for one hour a day. If I get more than that, I'm very happy. If I can't find one hour on a particular day, I try to carve out more time on another.
It's important for you to be able to feed your passion. It helps make you a happier, healthier, more well-rounded person. I spent the first year of my daughter's life ignoring my own needs, and suffering as a result. Now that I have dedicated myself to writing, I have a revived sense of energy, excitement and achievement. Find your passion and feed it!
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Elizabeth Flora Ross has been writing professionally and personally for close to 20 years. As a communications and marketing professional from 1993-2009, Elizabeth wrote for some of the biggest names in business. She self-published her first book, MAKING FRIENDS WITH PAIN: LEARNING TO LIVE WELL WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS, in 1999. From 2003-2006, Elizabeth wrote a web column for the Florida Times Union. She is currently working on her second book, exploring the decisions women raised during the second wave of feminism make concerning motherhood.http://thewriterrevived.blogspot.com/ (blog)
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Elizabeth, thanks for the great advice. It is always good to be reminded of what we NEED to be doing!
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